Last night my husband wanted my pass word to my e-mail, so he could see who all i had been talking to, he thinks that i am trying to hide something from him, the reason that the wanted it was because he going throught my text messages, on my phone and see whrere a friend told me to check my e- mail. What would you have done?
2006-08-03 03:39:43 · 25 answers · asked by bdmrplemons 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would have given it to him. Then I would have asked for his.
G.G.
2006-08-03 03:47:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ewww...that's tough.
Well, as a married woman you and your husband should have no secrets. So he really should have the freedom to go through anything he wants and that should be ok with you.
The problem is: he's actually DOING it! Just because my dad can rummage through my mom's purse doesn't mean he does it! He doesn't. He's respectful. But, he could. See my point?
The other problem is: you are not appreciating it because he's controlling, obsessive, and doing it to catch you in something...not simply because he is looking for an important text message. His intentions are to catch you doing something wrong...not rummaging through your purse for that 5$.
That's tough. I would first make sure that you aren't hiding anything. You should be willing to be open about anything. But, he really shouldn't be controlling like that either.
That's a big one: seek counseling. I hope it helps.
2006-08-03 10:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by lindakb24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. Do you have something to hide? He shouldn't invade your privacy like that, however maybe he feels he has a reason to be suspicious. My husband and I both have all our info auto saved on our home computers. we could check up on each other at any given time, but never do. So, in my case, I would let him look and laugh when he found nothing.
2006-08-03 10:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely give it to him! You should have nothing to hide from him and certain things in marriage are not private! Then when he checks and found out he was wrong, I would make him give me the apology of a lifetime! Good luck!
My husband and I have each others passwords and always have!
2006-08-03 11:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by iLoveDawnDawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to kiss your ***....dont get me wrong secrets dont work in a relationship but a husband nor wife dont need to know everything. Besides, he should just ask you what was on the email and trust you to tell him the truth. If your are lying the web will eventually untangle. Sounds to me he needs to let loose a little and give you just a little space.
2006-08-03 10:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by Looking4Help727 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't give my husband my password but I am always happy to log him onto my account. I stay close so that he can't go changing my password too. You didn't give your password did you? Of course, when my husband was accusing me of being up to no good he was the one that was up to no good. His reason for wanting to check my email was to cover his own butt. You see he was afraid that someone would tell me what was up with him and some online bimbo. Just remember that what works for others may not work for you.
2006-08-03 10:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel like that is a bit of invasion of privacy. I mean, do you do that to him. However, I can see that if you didn't have something to hide, just give him the password to keep from arguing. He is your husband. You're supposed to share everything. Even if you don't want to.
2006-08-03 11:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by kelynn1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have anything to hide then why are you worried about it in the first place? If there is nothing on your e-mail that will incriminate you, then you should show it to him your self! And have him show you his e-mail as well! It is so very terrible when there is no trust in a marriage!!!!
2006-08-03 12:14:52 · answer #8 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't have anything to hide, then give it to him...if there is something there that he could take the wrong way, you should tell him about it before you let him read it, and if there is something "going on" you REALLY should tell him about it... if you haven't done anything to make him suspicious in the past, then it sounds like he may be looking for some justification for his own actions....has he ever done anything or acted suspicious? Either way...there shouldn't be any secrets.
2006-08-03 10:44:01 · answer #9 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have nothing to hide then why are you being like this?
You may not be doing anything wrong but by refusing him or not showing him your email all you are doing is taking away any trust he had in you.
It's horrible being in his position. From what you have written I believe you have something to hide.
2006-08-03 11:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that there is nothing to hide and he can read the email if he wants but the password is yours. You are intitled to some privacy even though you are married. If you have nothing to hide then let him read it so he feels better about it.
2006-08-03 10:45:07 · answer #11 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋