I am also married with 2 children and he has grandcildren. We have only official relationships. but at meetings I get blushed and my hands trembled, that made him nitice my feeling to hi. I really love him and want him to live long, long, long happily and healthily. I realize I should leave the job, and he is going to sell his business.
Please advise something the right steps I should do
2006-08-03 03:27:22 · 6 answers · asked by carodicarode 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He gave me at one meeting a book. 5 months later I read it and it was about love betwwen A married king and a merried young lady. The king loved the lady till the end of his life.
2006-08-03 03:47:33 · update #1
You should move on and find a job. It's not the normal love you felt for him, but you see him more as a fatherly figure. Do not confuse that. Treasure your family and not fantasise something that is unreal.
2006-08-03 03:49:53 · answer #1 · answered by Dani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aside from the fact that you are stupid here's some other things you should consider. 1) If you really love im then you should leave him. He's 55 and your 25. You're not even into your sexual peak and he's out of his by almost 10 years. To do you he'd have to take a moountain of Viagra. I know right now you say"I don't have to have the sex...but believe me in about 10 years you WILL have to have the sex". He will be 65 and looking very much like a "walking raisin". If he can so you at all then it will truly be a "miracle". SO want this thing to start huh?
When he's 65 you will be 35. When he's 75 you will be 45. The time in your life that you will want to enjoy it with someone special. You're not going to want to hang out with an ancient man wrapped up in a blanket...maybe a diaper smelling stinky when all of your friends are out touring the country, having fun with mates of their age etc.... So you will some time before this point get sick and tired of being a Certified Nursing Assistant and leave his *** alone and with out a partner to check out with.
2) Now let's check on the children. You will subject these children to a man who is "out of sync" with their ages...your husband is young enough to be there for them, to play with them and help them through the tough times. By divorcing him you will be taking them away from their Daddy. They will be screwed up becasue of your actions.
3) Financial ruin. You will subject both men to sever financial ruin. The old guy may be foreign..but if he's living in America he comes under American laws. Which means you fart around with him...he'll think he's young and will do whatever he thinks is necessary to have you. You wil ruin him. YOur huisband on the other hand will be forced to pay approximately 30% of his net imcome to you in childsupport. It will force him to work overtime, weekends to have any type of a decent life.
Despite you rock solid feelings (I thought you had these when you married your husband...oh yes...that was different. I really do love this guy...blah, blah blah...bs, bs, bs.....), they will change because you don't appear to be a stable person. You are living for the moment and you don't really care who's hand on the ladder you step on in the climb to your happiness.
The thing I do know is that you won't ever get there. you will always be looking becasue you only love yourself. And people who only love themselves never reach true happiness.
You need counseling.
Good luck and I feel sorry for the men who have the bad luck of coming into contact with a pathological woman like yourself.
2006-08-03 03:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you need to do. Go ahead and leave the job even before he sells the business, because you shouldn't want two broken marriages on your hand. It won't be worth it, believe me. You both would be miserable after the fact if you try to be together in this way. If you'd like, you can ask my EX about the pain of loosing out over a fling. They thought they were in love too!
2006-08-03 03:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've probably idealized him all out of proportion. If he's your boss then it's doubtful you know anything about him outside the work environment. So what do you really know about him? Maybe he's told all sorts of personal thing, but those are just words. You can't know someone from their words. Of course, he's married so he's off limits. You're also married, so you're off limits. and most importantly you BOTH have CHILDREN so why would you wreck two families on an illusion.
2006-08-03 03:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
r u kidding me-what r u thinking-first of all your married w/ kids and so is he-how is that fair to your husband and his wife-not the kids fault on how they will suffer over this if you take it any further-leave the job before you do something you will regret-maybe seek some counseling about why you are feeling like straying
2006-08-03 03:34:25 · answer #5 · answered by Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both are MARRIED.
You may want to end your relationship, but maybe he doesn't.
2006-08-03 03:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋