Best friend to Ex Friend..?!?!?!?!!?

Question

I met this girl 4 years ago. We were very close, did everything together..!!! Even when i had a b/f i never excluded her. It was like i was dating both of them..hahaha.. Well about 10 months ago she got kinda close with one of my b/f's friend and completely dropped me..she hardly ever calls, never wants to hang out, and if we do its never just us girls he always has to be around..!!! i hate it she is not the same..even her personality has changed. Its like her b/f took complete controll of her life. Well now she is 6 months pregnant..and its hard for me to care..I really dont even like who she has become. Is this wrong for me not to really care for her anymore???

Answer 1

if she does that around you then she is ot your best friend any more dont worry and dont call her

Answer 2

Honey, I can still sense that you still care and miss her. We are human beings and we are very sensitive when it comes to attention and carring. There is one thing though that we must always accept and respect, it's the fact that sometimes people change, not that they don't care anymore, just that at some point in time drastic changes happen for reasons, reason that maybe only your friend knows. You know, you mentioned that she is pregnant now, well she has matured in some kind of way, she ain't really into going out, having fun, some people are like that you know.

I had a friend once, we grew up almost like sisters. Then when I got my first job and boyfriend she thought I did not want to speak to her. I guess she got it all wrong. Then she found a job far away, and we lost complete communication. I still miss the days we shared together, talking, laughing ...etc. But things change, people change and what can we do, we have to accept the fact that some things cannot be the same as were before, and we also have to respect the fact that if our friends feel happier that way, then we must feel happy for them. I miss my friend deeply, and i'm still waiting for some day to come when we can meet and talk about everything, all the wrong impressions we got about each other.

Be patient, if you two were as close as you said you were, at some point in time, she is going to call you, then it's going to be your opportunity to mention to her what you thought but that you are glad she still has you somewhere in your mind.


Patience Girl!

Answer 3

Over a life time your friends are going to change. Just give up with her and move on. It is not worth it. My best friend of 14 years and I just stopped talking and she was in my wedding 10 months ago! We even traveled all over Europe together commuted to college together everything. Now that i live in another state and I am married we are at two different places in our lives and she does not understand mine at all. The entire time at my reception for my wedding she talked on her cell phone to some guy that she went on one date with. Even at the head table she was onthe phone. HOW RUDE? I hope that someone does that to her on her wedding day so she will realize. I even asked her to hang up and she wouldn't. It is to bad that she is like this now. I think that she has become jealous that I got married first and that my husband is so nice and that she is still living at home and unable to do anything with out her parents holding her hand. My point is, it happens people change and good friendships turn toxic fast. It is time to drop that girl and find someone else.

Answer 4

All I have to say is people change. You should never ignore the needs of somebody you are/were close with. She's going to need somebody there for her and I'd make yourself available. She'll come around eventually. My best friend since kindergarden did something like this. We just graduated and she's engaged and doesn't have time for anymore. But, I can't forget about the close relationship we used to have. Maybe she feels like you've changed to even though you don't think you have. Just let her know that you're ther for her if she needs you and leave it at that.

Answer 5

I would tell her how you feel. I have a good friend who, now for some reason, I feel very uncomfortable around and really dont wish to have a friendship with her anymore. It's hard. I have had a very difficult time trying to tell her how I feel--I'm scared I may hurt her feelings. But she senses something is wrong because I don't communicate nearly as much as I used to. I should take my own advice and just talk to her about it. Sometimes, we have to move on.

Answer 6

you need to be honest with her and tell her how she has hurt you by ignoring the friend ship when she had a boyfriend,a lot of women do that they forget their girlfriends,its not easy to juggle every one and some times you have to compromise, but this girl needs to know how you feel,and maybe start afresh as friends.Relationships come and go but good friends are worth their weight in gold,they help you throughh the horrible break up that you though was the end of the world they are there for you when you find your first grey hair,they hold your hand and you hold their through life's difficult patches,this girl has slipped but maybe you could be the bigger person and give her another chance?

Answer 7

Sometimes you just have to realize that people change. You might not like the situation that she is in or who she is dating but that is her call. Her new boyfriend might not want you in the pic cause of your history. Best thing i would do if i was in your position is call once in awhile to let her know you are there but i wouldn't put in my two cents. It's her life, sometimes people have to realize things on their own. Maybe you have changed and she hasn't. You have grown to be someone great and she is still herself. Sometimes it's within. GOod luck...and let her know you are there if she needs ya.

MK

Answer 8

You just growing up.... It is a different period of your time when things get different. It is innevitable.. It is like growing out of your favorite pants from the childhood. You need to move on..... It is the point of no return and your relations won't be the same anymore... You just need to face another phase of your life and embrace its benifits and forgive its drawbacks

Answer 9

Not at all. Sometimes friends drift apart for various reasons, it's happened to me. It's unfortunate but sometimes you just have to move on. Hopefully your friend will realize she's been aloof eventually and apologize, but it's up to you if you want to accept that apology and be friends again.

Answer 10

yes because you and her probably been through alot together and its like because she has a friend that's always around her. you suppose to be her friend and be there for her. what if you was in her shoes do you think it would be right for her to do it to you.