how can i tell my girl that..?

Question

i like to play with guys

Answer 1

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If you can play with guys, you can stay with guys. Dump the chick and lay with guys.

Answer 2

THAT COULD BE A PROBLEM. HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN WITH YOUR GIRL? IS THE RELATIONSHIP SERIOUS? TRUTHFULLY, IT'S NOT VERY HARD TO TELL IF A GUY MAY HAVE THESE "TENDANCIES" SO TO SPEAK, SO, YOUR GIRL MAY ALREADY KNOW. IF SHE DOSENT, AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS BASED ON TRUTH AND HONESTY, YOU SHOULD TELL HER. YOU MAY BE SURPRISED AT HER REACTION....MAY NOT BE AS BAD AS YOU THINK. IF YOU PLAN ON CONTINUING THE RELATIONSHIP, CHANCES ARE, SHE'LL FIND OUT LATER AND THEN YOU PROBLEMS WILL BE COMPOUNDED. SINCE YOU LIKE TO 'PLAY WITH GUYS', THIS IS PART OF WHO YOU ARE, AND ANY GIRL WHO LOVES YOU, WILL HAVE TO ACCEPT THAT PART OF YOUR LIFE. LIVE YOUR LIFE THE WAY YOU CHOOSE AND BE THE PERSON THAT 'YOU' WANT TO BE. ALWAYS DO WHAT YOUR HEART TELLS YOU. HONESTY MAY HELP TO DRAW YOU CLOSER TO YOUR GIRL. REMEMBER, IF YOU LIE TO HER, THE LIES WILL NEVER STOP, YOU WILL ALWAYS HAVE TO COVER A LIE WITH A NEW LIE. GO AHEAD...TELL HER THE WAY IT IS AND GET IT OFF YOUR CHEST...GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND HOPEFULLY YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL GET STRONGER. REMEMBER.....PLAY SAFE WITH THE GUYS....AIDS AND STDs CAN COME KNOCKING IN ANYONES DOOR, SO PLAY SAFE.

Answer 3

For the sake of sanity and sanitation/health, this is something you should not be hiding from her. I hope you are using a condom at all times. And if the relationship breaks down after your confession, then it wasn't meant to be. And if you want it to ever be long term, then this kind of secret needs to be brought out. Watch a gay guy movie, like Broke-back, with her. Start a conversation about men and how their sexuality is and work in a subtle comment about how you've thought about it. Go slowly and carefully and hopefully she'll be open to you. Good luck.

Answer 4

Just the way you told us. But expect a reaction, and give her time to absorb it, to ask questions, etc. If you're attached to her, you need to sort out whether you can play with guys, and still be within the bounds of your relationship. You can be bisexual, but if you are actively seeing her and guys, that's a different story than just liking to play, you ARE playing with guys. She may or may not see this as being different than if you were playing with additional girls.

Answer 5

You should only tell her if you are sure that you want to.

It's all nice for people to make absolutest statements, but you have to live with the results.

By the statement that you make I presume that you are bi. If you are gay, I would suggest gently breaking it off. If you are bi -- wait for the right time to tell her, or if you aren't comfortable telling her, be very discreet what you do with who.

Nothing says you have to tell her at all if you are bi.

Be yourself, be happy.

Reyn
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Answer 6

State out then don't expect her to hang out any more. But tell her, it's not fair for her to get this information from any one else. Make your choice and quit riding the fence....

Answer 7

just tell her. if she doesnt comprehend then spell it out for her. i had to do that when i told my girlfriend (a genetic female) that i am bi and i like transsexuals and i like to be a woman and stuff like that. hopefully shell understand you, if not find yourself someone who will.

Answer 8

your just WRONG!
if you want to live that lifestyle then fine have at it but it is just plain wrong to play both fields and the other party has no clue HAVE YOU EVER HEARD OF HIV OR STD'S!!!!!

Answer 9

Umm say it like you just said it. It's not that hard you're just making it that way.

Answer 10

just tell her what she thinks about bi people, i told my wife i like men..she was ok with that.