My gf and I are planning to move in together this fall. We are in college and very much in love. We have basiclly lived together over the past year and know each other very well we each know how the other acts under different circumstances and at times. Our relationship is based on love and we communicate with eachother. We do fight just like every couple but we always work through it. I know the statistics say that if you live together before marriage you are more likely to split up but I dont believe this will happend to us. No i am not nieve or to young to realize I have experienced more than many have at my age and I am level headed and intellegent young person We both wanted to move out of the dorms and we each wanted to move in with someone that we got along with and were best friends with This is why we choose eachother. I just want to know what people feel about a young couple moving in together and any advice you could give. And this stupid quote of the cow does not apply!
2006-08-03 03:06:34 · 11 answers · asked by Brad 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I understand the concern about her worrying about cooking and such, but we have already talked about that and we are going to split everything 50/50 or as close to that as we can. Bills will be paid 50/50. As for her having guy friends it doesnt bother me. We basiclly lived in eachothers dorms last year and i stay at her house friday and saturdays and sometimes during the week this summer. I would rather live with someone before you get married and besided her parents and mine won't agree to a marrige until after college and its hard to argee with them when my parents are paying for about half of my college.
2006-08-03 03:38:07 · update #1
My boyfriend and I moved in together first, as friends with a little intrest. We've lived together as a couple almost 2 years now. It depends on the couple. You know the risks so go for it. Just make sure you lay down so boundries and things first. You don't realize how sacred personal space is until you move in with someone.
2006-08-03 03:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by Wrapped in Thorns 2 · 7⤊ 2⤋
I would wait. I have been with my fiancee for 4 years and we still do not live with eachother. He's a teacher and i am still a college student. We met when he was in college and even though i was in college too we lived at two different places on two different sides of the town.
Even now, being engaged and me being almost finished with school, we are waiting till we get married. I spend friday -sunday night at his house. YOu should try this. If you do move in that is you and your gf descion but i believe it will create extra stree on the relationship.
For example, she may feel like it is her responsibility to cook and clean even when shes got studying to do. What happens if she wants a few guy friends to come over? There are many small details that can create tension very quickly .Whos gunna do the grocery shopping?
I say that you should wait! If you are meant to be married youll have your entire adult life to live together. Have fun together and seperatly now, then make that commitment later!
Good luck, and dont rush into anything too soon!
2006-08-03 10:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by KLL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say if you feel ready you probly are. Just be ready because you don't really know someone until you actually live together. My wife and I lived together before we were married and we are very happy. Just don't let the small thing get ya. Like I said you are going to learn a lot of new things, not matter how well you think you know each other know.
2006-08-03 10:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by yetti 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
thirty five years later my husband and I are still friends.. yes we did get divorced after twenty five years of marriage but we still remain friends. Sometimes we will help each other with projects in the other ones house.......we met other people, had great times with them but always seem to find each other again. Yes we are just friends but, where can you find a friend that last 35 years and when you need them they are there. Go for it.....I have alot of friends that never lived together and were divorced with in five years>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>good luck I hope my son lives with his girlfriend first
2006-08-03 10:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by just me 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you can make it work. Go for it. But, in my opinion, it would be best to get married first.
2006-08-03 10:14:03 · answer #5 · answered by Just a Girl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you get along that well and can save money too, I guess it makes sense. I don't see anything wrong with it. Have fun & study.
2006-08-03 10:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
After they get married.
2006-08-03 10:09:57 · answer #7 · answered by kitty fresh & hissin' crew 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move in right after the wedding. If you can't committ to marriage, no need to play house.
2006-08-03 10:13:11 · answer #8 · answered by Reddy492 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i believe you should be married before you move in
2006-08-03 10:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by san_ann68 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
come law
2006-08-03 10:09:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋