Why do men.....?

Question

not cry infront or share their grief/emotions with their partners.
Are they ashamed or is this a macho thing to seem they've got it together.
Also how many of you men feel comfortable enough to cry infront of someone? It'd be interesting to know.

Well constructed answers please, no trash.

No kids love but I know when he hurts he does it privately, it's frustrating not knowing how to help your man through a difficult time. I'm thinking the best thing is to give him space. However I want to know the best I can do for him.

Answer 1

Generally, men and women don't respond to grief in the same ways. While most women will cry, men let out their grief in others way. It doesn't mean they dont have feelings it's just they let out their anger or sadness in other unique ways, like maybe by focusing on a project to relax themselves or some eat a lot when they are depressed. Sometimes it is a 'macho' thing. But real men have feelings and emotiones

Answer 2

Men do not like to show their emotions in front of their wives or girlfriends because in their minds, that would be showing weakness. Men cry in private many times, not only away from their significant other, but away from other men as well (even male friends, cousins, brothers, fathers, etc.). I can't remember the last time I cried, Pan. And when I did, I am sure I did it in the privacy of my own home. And I was raised in a family of mostly sisters and had very close platonic female friends. I don't think it is just a cultural thing; I think it is a biological aspect of men's behavior. Hope this helps you understand your man.

Answer 3

I know exactly what you mean..

there is no reason but that a man just don't cry, me personally the best I could do is shed a tear but I just can't cry.

simply can't cry.. I wonder if I will when I loose the most valuable person in my life, mum..
I wonder that, I also think I will be angry with myself if I don't cry.
I think I won't cry on the spot but after wards when I'm alone in my room..
This is me, I'm not sure about others but to answer your question no I just can't cry, i simply don't have the ability.
last time I cried I was 14 now I'm 30.. I'd shed one or two tears but that's about it but that's not called crying.

Hope I have answered you question.

Simply wishing you the best of luck,

Garry

Answer 4

The macho image that media has brought out is one main reason why most men don't cry.

I do cry, infront of anyone than I am comfortable. It releases the tensions.

Answer 5

Personally I'm very emotional. However growing up guys look down upon you if you cry. They look at you like your weak, and powerless. So instead of showing there true feelings they hide them, in fear of being put down. Sometimes I just don't want people to know how I feel, because I want to deal with the pains myself. I'm somewhat like a woman when it comes to movies, cause I end up shedding some tears, but definelty not over something silly, like some woman cry over. I'm not really afraid to cry in front of people any more, I even have cried over my own make believe stories lol. :>)

Answer 6

To most, its a sign of weekness. Something we inheirited from our fathers. I tend not to cry in front of other men, except for situations like when my dad passd away. If I am comfortable with a woman, I will let a little more slip through. Only in private though. lol

Answer 7

depends on men you hang out with.... I always share the feelings with her and even cry sometimes. and my friends do the same... so it depends... May it is just you who likes those "Macho" types, in other words "Real" men.? Unfortunatelly, "sensetive" Macho-man (a very attarctive type for many women) does not live in the real world, only in the movies.

Answer 8

My husband used to hide his feelings because he felt it wasn't "manly". After we had a son and the baby got to be about 4 or so my husband made the comment that our son cried too much. I said no, he doesn't, he just isn't afraid to show his feelings. So he took that to heart and has been crying and showing his feelings over the last few years.

Answer 9

I am a 41 year old male and i am not ashamed to show my emotions in front of anyone.I have cried in front of my partner i have cried in front of my mates.Emotions were given to us to show just how we feel and just how we react on them.being macho or ashamed of your emotions no matter who you are is just being silly to yourself.I cry when I am sad I laugh when I am happy.I sing when I am in a good mood I get angry when I am pushed to far.After all we are only human.

Answer 10

A man never cries in front of any body, he always thinks himself able to get rid of any odd or hurting situation,& feels proud to solve most of the most difficult situations in his life himself without any bodies help. This is the masculine nature.