All of my life I searched for that special woman. A woman I could give my heart to with out reservation. There were so many women in my life. I would sleep with them all. Some for a week some for a night or even a month or two. But none would touch so deep in my soul than this woman I was married to for the last 14 years. I loved the scent of her pillow. I would smell it when she was away. What a wonderful woman she was to me. She was 11 years younger than I. She even wanted a child. I was more than happy to give her anything she wanted. But after she slept with a stanger that day. My world fell apart. I am trying to move on. But my love was real. I am amazed that I let this one woman affect me so much. She was sexually abused as a child and I loved her inhabitions. My gaurd was down and I was hurt like no other. How can I move on nowing I will love no one else in my life time.
2006-08-03 02:39:13 · 9 answers · asked by christsluv4u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-08-03 02:54:29 · update #1
You will love again, eventually. It will take some time to trust another female, though. Take it slowly, and don't look for or expect too much from the next woman.
My only advice to you would be: Don't make the next, good woman pay for the mistakes of the last one.
2006-08-03 02:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting over love is not all that hard of a procces. I had the hardest most embarrassing heart break that lasted years and I almost died of it. My advise try to make it as easy as possible for yourself and the loved one.
1.) I think that if you gather the love that is inside of you and give it to yourself and the rest of the world you will get a feeling of satisfaction.
2.) I believe that love is a great thing and to say you will love no one else is a pittyfull existence.
3.) If you want you can look at it like this.....you are letting a cheating *** whore kill your soul your love your essence. That is sad.
4.) Anouther point of view I have is you gave her everything, right and she was spoiled. You used to be a flesh pusher right? Well when she saw something she wanted maybe she assumed you wouldnt mind.
Did she understand that this was something you did'nt want? If she didnt and If she still loves you I think you should give her anouther chance (expecially after 14yrs) Let her know cheating is not something you can deal with.
2006-08-03 04:50:27 · answer #2 · answered by aquestion4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try counseling with her. Even though she did cheat on you which i think is something unforgivable, you love her. And remember that she was sexually abused. That has something to do with what she did. I have never been cheated on so I don't know how I would react until that happen. I would hope that my husband would be forgiving to me if I ever did something like that but I never would want to hurt him. Really try counseling first before you finalize anything with her.
2006-08-03 02:56:11 · answer #3 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hiya hun dont worry to much about this girl. she wil regret it one day when she meets the wrong guy and realised she made a big mistake. but dont take her back hun try and move on with your life and you will meet a girl who wants to be with you and wont cheat on you or anything like that. good luck hun and never give up in lookin for that right girl! and remember to have a good time while your lookin! lov gem xxxx
2006-08-03 02:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by gem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin, 1st u have to let yourself get over her and that relationship, until you let go, you'll never be happy again in any relationship.
Take a page from our book, go and have urself a tantrum, scream, cry,beat the hell out of a pillow, say everything outloud to her picture that has been making you hurt. you'll be surprised at how much better you'll feel.
2006-08-03 02:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by koleebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww u sound like such a sweet guy i know theres someone good out there for u!!! u deserve it, just keep looking for her she will appear sometime soon!!and dont look in the wrong places like clubs u dont want to take that home to mom. good luck hun. i was in love with this guy for 5 years and he did me dirt and now im happily married and 8 weeks pregnant, i didnt think i would EVER love again, this just shows u can love again hun it just takes time
2006-08-03 02:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just move on
there is someone out there for you and she will not cheat on you.
Real love is commitment. She wasnt the only fish in the sea.
Go fishin!!!
2006-08-03 07:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her another chance, don't ruin your live out of hatred or hurt. Did she say she's sorry? Then she probably is!
2006-08-03 02:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by Mona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can move on and you will meet another woman and she will help you to forget .!!
2006-08-03 02:56:43 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋