I have a 6yr old daughter with a man that i never married. i have already been to court and i have full physical custody and joint legal. He has been gone for 2+years now in the army. and before that he wasn't unfit. but just too immature to handle taking proper care. But let past be past. He is now a new man and is still gone in Iraq. And anytime he talks to me it's about something that i do wrong or something he would like me to change. As in dont keep beer in the fridge, dont let our daughter get fake butterfly tatoo's. Or him and my daughter were driving around one day and she said im scared of this road and started crying. So then he gets on the phone with me and ask do you drive real fast or is there and dangerous roads you take her down? And once my daughter said i dont want to go in those woods, they are scary. so he ask me if i have woods around my house or have i ever left her outside by herself? im just stunned with this and am tired of dealing with it. what can i do?
2006-08-03 01:45:45 · 6 answers · asked by simple 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To me, it sounds like he is trying to make up for lost time - since he has not been in your daughters life for so long, he feels its his right to "over-parent" Plain and simply tell him - I don't do anything to harm our daughter - I do the best I can to properly take care of her. She is 6 - its a melodramatic stage, she does fine in school, has friends, etc, etc As for beer in the fridge - your an adult, with that comes a lot of resposiblity, if you want to end your day with a beer, or crack one open while your bbqing, whatever - tell her dad that she needs to learn that as adults you are entiltled to more - you've earned it.
My husband is in the militay - in the last four years of enlistment, he has been gone almost two and a half - he does the same thing with our son when he gets home.
2006-08-03 03:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by Jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's becoming concerned for his daughter. Sometimes when you're in a situation like he is, you realize all the dangers out there for the ones you love.. I'd keep an open communication with him, and let it pass... Or maybe you both need to talk to your daughter about how she's feeling.. It's difficult to come up with an easy answer for this..
ps. I was scared of the woods behind my house when I was little because of a nightmare I'd had...
2006-08-03 08:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by ray of sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some man tell him to get his *** back from iraq and take care of his child if he feels ur not doing it.ur wonderful and taking care of her as best as u can let him **** off.he has no right to question u on what a child tells him.she might be saying things like children say when power goes off saying im scared of dark im scared of crawling things that doesnt mean ur not a good mother.he needs to know difference between child talking and child talking about how she feels.reality and fiction.
2006-08-03 08:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by daworldtraveller 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a moments pleasure, you are now serving a life sentence.
Learn to live with it and be an adult.
2006-08-03 08:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by Michael S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing u can do about it u should be happy he loves his daughter enough to be concerned
2006-08-03 12:36:24 · answer #5 · answered by heather f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he loves his daughter, and is just concerned about her, does he support her .
2006-08-03 08:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by duc602 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋