how do you deal with the death of a US Marine?

Question

a guy i graduated high school with was killed in Iraq last thursday. I didn't even know he went into the Marines. when we were in high school he was going so hard for the Air Force so when i heard he was killed i was in total shock.
i went to his viewing last night and saw his younger sister that my sister went to school with and she was doing very well for loosing her brother but it's been almost a week since they heard and she said she couldn't cry anymore there were just no tears left. but i on the other hand fought so hard not to cry in front of her. when i left the funeral home i called my boyfriend crying my eyes out. i don't like death. it's too unpredictable. i never thought too much about death before and i wasn't really afraid of death and when or where it may happen, but now i see that it cuts life too short and i don't want to miss anything. so how do i deal with my new fear of life being cut too short??

emailskip if i was looking for someone to blame that would have been in my question but i'm not so back off... this isn't the time for that

Answer 1

My condolences to your school mate and the greiving family of a fallen comrade.
To answer your question: Deal with it in your own way as everyone learns to do. That is easier said than done but please know this; I served in the Marine Corps and I can tell you from my heart that serving this Country and my Corps was an honor and a privilidge that very few know or will ever know.
I would give my life for my country both now and back then for what I truely believe in, and that is the freedom that my family and friends enjoy every day. No Marine ever gave his life in vain - Please don't get caught up in what our governments cause is or was or if you believe in what were doing or not. The fact remains that when a Marine is called to duty it is the highest honor to defend what he thinks is right and to do what Marine's are highly trained to do.
This Marine was a warrior and was doing what he wanted to do. Be proud of this young Marine and support his family those who follow him.
The gates of heaven are guarded by United States Marines.
My advice to you is to live your life as if you you had one more day to live. Live responsibly but do the things that make you and others happy. Stop the "what if's" and make your dreams come true. I truely live my life believing this and have accomplished so much more than I ever thought possible. If I found out tomorrow that I was going to leave this world soon - I would have very few regrets and even less "what if's".
You can't control somethings but you can control most things.
This event in your life made you contemplate life and death and has you worried - that is normal - we all do. It makes us realize how much we have and how important life is to us, so get out there and enjoy your life and remember that time does heal.
Always here to help .
Semper Fi.
Semper Fi

Answer 2

I think many people feel the same fear of death upon their first first hand experience of it - when you lose someone close to you who has died before their time. I adopted the attitude that life is simply a precious gift - you must just make the most of every moment of every day and squeeze as much enjoyment out of everything that you can. If my time is up my time is up, hopefully I'll be old and grey when that time comes, if not at least I will have lived my life to the fullest in the time I had.

Answer 3

This announcing comes from the Duchy of Brittany, for over a millenium an impartial state, an excessively rich nation defended by means of robust, reliable armies, navies and marines corps. Brittany's motto is "Kentoc'h mervel eget bezañ saotret", which means "Rather loss of life than dishonour". The word got here into English utilization with the Bretons who followed William the Conqueror. Their chief, Count Alan Rufus, de facto Earl of East Anglia and of York and commander of King William's family cavalry, developed up Boston in Lincolnshire (by means of 1200, side of England's greatest problematic of seaports), from which Boston in Massachusetts was once settled. Alan was once additionally a "praeceptor legis" (regulation professor) who situated a seminary which grew to become the University of Cambridge, and lecturers from Cambridge situated Harvard.

Answer 4

Every time the news announcers give the death statistics from this war in Iraq I cry. I really feel for their families, and think this should not be happening. We should not be there, and our troops (young women and men) are dying because they believe that they are fighting for our freedom.

We should only fight the terrorists directly. Not a country that does not like us.

That is more political than you wanted, sorry. To deal with this, you are trying to understand it. You are facing the inevitable end that we all face. This was up close and personal, sorry for your loss. Keep your feelings for tragic events like this.

Answer 5

All I can say is that everything you're dealing with is absolutely normal. Everyone gets to face that reminder of their own mortality when someone their age, or close to it, dies. Allow yourself to grieve. Don't try to supress it. When you need to cry, cry. When you stop crying, don't feel guilty because you've stopped. As long as it doesn't become and overwhelmingly morbid obsession (and I'm thinking that someone near to you would tell you if it does) there's nothing abnormal about feeling the pain that you are feeling now.

Answer 6

It's senseless and unnecessary. Bush is to blame for the hundreds of Americans killed in Iraq, so far. He is a war criminal and should be held accountable by the American people. Impeachment should happen and prison should be in his future. Bush is the most dangerous person in the world today.

Answer 7

The same way you would deal with the death of anyone else. With respect and compassion.

Answer 8

You deal with a US marine's death the same way you deal with anybody else's death.

Answer 9

There is nothing our heavenly father can't handle. Pray and let go and let God. Jesus will see you through.