How often do you have sex? If possible, include your age. I'm 35 and he's 32. We hardly have sex anymore! It's gotten to be only like 3 times a month! I'm very disappointed.
2006-08-03 01:30:03 · 38 answers · asked by CJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am assuming since you posted this question, you aren't the problem. Get him to a doctor to find out if there is a medical reason he no longer wants sex. If there is none, then there may be an emotional reason. At your age, you should be having sex much more often. I met my ex-husband when we were both 18 and married him when we were 27. We only had sex once every 7-9 months, even while dating. He just wasn't as sexual a person as I am. We stayed together for 13 1/2 years and we were miserable.
I'm now 40 and my new husband is 63. We have been married for 3 years now and we continue to have sex at least once a day. And no, he doesn't need anything to help out. We are both very sexual people and we never let it get boring or become a routine. Try to shake things up. Try role playing. Do it in different rooms. Do it in the car. Do it in the shower or bath. Play out your fantasies. Watch a p0rn movie together. Talk dirty to him. Have him talk dirty to you. Have sex at different times of the day. Try different positions. Get some toys. Try some oils for massages. Get some lingerie. Whisper in his ear when you are out in public, what you wish you could be doing to him at that moment. We do all of these things, that's what keeps the sex so hot for us.
I hope this helps and gives you hope. Sex doesn't have to end simply because you get older. Good luck.
2006-08-03 01:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by I love my husband 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 28 and my husband is 32. We have sex at least 4-5x a week. When we first got married i was 17 and he was 21 we would have sex about 2x a month, if that. This went on for 5 years, I think he was having an affair, and till this day he denies that he did. I eventually got tired of that and left the marriage when i was 22 years old. We got back together when i was 25 and he 29 and for the past 3 years we have had sex about 4-5x a week, Our marriage is way different this time, I can't complain. I am sorry for what you are going thru, maybe you can sit and talk to him about what is going on. I know i did that with my husband the first time and he wouldn't listen but maybe yours will. Seperation was what helped me, I am by no means telling you to get separated but sometimes that is what you need, so that the other person can realize what he had and lost. I wish you the best:)
XOXOXO:)
2006-08-03 09:42:02 · answer #2 · answered by ange!s26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me too - 38, married 9 yrs ago - my wife never liked sex in the first place so can't say I'm surprised, hoped it would get better but now I'm asking questions - we don't even have kids, it's a bit weird, are we really married or just dating!? we do it about 2-3x a month, sometimes much less. I can't understand a guy who doesn't like sex, if you were my wife I'd be late for work every morning because of you!!!!
2006-08-06 22:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of this before, everyone has a different level of sexual desire and needs. My husband and I have sex everyday, usually. Sometimes it's more, sometimes a little less. But, if I noticed a dramatic change in his level of sex-drive, I would probably be suspicious. But, if your husband has very gradually slowed down to this level, maybe it is natural, or depression, or stress. Has he had problems at work, or feelings of anxiety, purhaps? You should arrange a "date night" where you do your best to turn him on and do things, wear things he likes, and see what happens. If he is not really interested, and doesn't apologize immediately, and doesn't give you the reason why he's so anti-sexual lately, I would worry. But, if you get a good responce, or at least an acceptable explanation for his lack of get-up-and-go, offer to kiss it and make it better. ;p
2006-08-03 02:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is 26 and I am 19. Married for 3 years. Do it about 3 times a week.
2006-08-03 01:33:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 24 and I'm 21 and we have sex about 3-4 times a week.
2006-08-03 02:20:10 · answer #6 · answered by kelynn1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its nothing to be disappointed. I am 30 and she is same age. We have been married for 6 years. That is like a surge when u feel the desire and some times u don't. It may last long.
It also depends on your work load.
2006-08-03 01:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by zain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have sex 2-3 times a week. I am 35 he's 38. With kids and work it's a wonder we do it that much.You should find out what's up?
2006-08-03 02:44:24 · answer #8 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I are both 50 but have been married only one year. Nothing like being a 50 year old newlywed. We have sex 3 or 4 times a week.
2006-08-03 01:40:46 · answer #9 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 24 and he's 25 married 4 years maybe 1 to 2 times a month
2006-08-03 02:26:23 · answer #10 · answered by ericka h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋