hi all..
i do really love a girl from bottom of my heart, but i can't marry her due to my family members, but i want her to be with me always. so what should i do ?
2006-08-03 01:17:20 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When you get married your spouse becomes your family and then when children come along then the family really fills out! You can let your family control and manipulate you, or you can go out and live your life regardless of what they think. If you're over 18, there's nothing they can do about it. If they give you or her a hard time, they will lose you forever, and it would be of their own creation! Follow your heart, my friend.
2006-08-03 01:32:13 · answer #1 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asiq, it seems to me like you have answered your own question when you answered the question about the girl from Dehli. Although I will say that if you wait for your mother's approval you may be a single man your entire life. What does your girl fiend want? Does she want to get married right now? Maybe if you get engaged and get married in a year, that will give your family members time to get used to it. You are the only person who knows what will make you happy, I really think that you should make yourself happy.
2006-08-03 01:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by badbeat1970 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would recommend you stay with the girl even if she's not the one for the rest of your life literally. i mean why should your family members even get in the way? what... they still think this is Romeo and Juliet? tell them to get their own life. they can have a say since it's freedom of speech but if they're going to stop you from marrying whoever you want to then that's wrong. you shouldn't let anybody control who you go out with or marry even. i mean you can back yourself up saying "if i tell you not to marry Dad... would you listen?" only if it's your mom or dad that disagreed with it. or if it's your siblings then it's even worse. who cares about what they think? you haven't care all your life why care now? so what if family members only come once in a life time but women come and go... it's the fact that they're trying to control your life that you should back up and defend. however... what is their reason for stopping you? was it something that she did like cheating or treated you really bad and they saw it? if so then maybe you can explain to them that it's okay since you're willing to take the risk or being with her. if they're really your family members they would understand and support you. if she does end up hurting you then they can be there for you all they want. but as for now they need to know that they don't own you so tell them to back off if they're mean about it. if they're more passive about it then do the soft way where you let them know that you appreciate how much they care for you but let them know not to worry since you got everything under control. good luck with this
2006-08-03 01:45:13 · answer #3 · answered by dorkydork 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should bypass trying to make you family members happy!!!You have a life of your own ,if you truly love a person it doesn't matter what your family thinks!!!! Follow your heart or lose the love of your life!!!!
2006-08-03 01:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by cocoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Am going to give you the advise someone told me 3 yrs ago. The only one's that have to approve of you being married is your girl and you. You are the one that's going to wake up, and go to sleep next to her not them. I know that just like me i didn't want to hurt my family but you have to stop trying to make everyone else happy. Make yourself the happiest man by being with the one person you want to spend the rest of your life with.
I think you have a lot of thinking to do. Within your thinking put yourself first. GOOD LUCK i wish you the best in life.
2006-08-03 02:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by ur_scooby_snack 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somewhere in the bible it says something about a man will leave his parents (or family) to be with his wife and blah blah blah. I can't remember the rest, but the point is... whomever you choose to marry, make sure she makes you happy! B/c she's the one that you're gonna have to spend the rest of your life with, not your family.
2006-08-03 01:28:18 · answer #6 · answered by sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you could always marry her and then hope your family comes around later on. There is always the chance that they won't though. It's hard to choose between love and family, but you may have to do that.
2006-08-03 01:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you don't really need the premission from anyone except your significant other.
the rest of the family will fall in place sooner or later.
Besides I am sure that some of them may not even care, they're
just going along w/ the rest of those who object.
Don't let her get away just of what everyone might say or think!
It's what she feels about you and your actions inspite of it all.
Remenber, happiness is what we're all after.
"nuff said.!!
ps Hope you're both of age! / and NOT related.
2006-08-03 01:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by curious rudy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There comes a time when you must break-away from family. You must choose your own life. Whether it is religious or cultural views that separate you. Just be sure she is the one prior to severing ties with your family.
You could always let your family know your intentions and disuss it.
2006-08-03 01:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jonathan S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly say me whether the girl loves u or not.
U need to chose the way ur heart says, but dont be a coward.
If u think ur parents who brought u up till today are important , forget the girl.
But if u think the girl is important forget ur parents.
Note: IN LIFE U NEED TO GIVE UP SOMETHING TO EARN SOMETHING
choices:PARENTS RESPECT VS UR WIFE
2006-08-03 01:53:07 · answer #10 · answered by ashmi r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋