who would you follow your father or your husband ?

Question

if a big fight happened between your father and your husband , and i mean big with police and courts , and can't be solved .
who would you believe when explaining what happened and follow , and you know you must choose one .

Answer 1

that's a hard one. It honestly depends on a few things:

1: Who do you truely in your heart agree with?
2: Family is forever, they are blood and no matter what should always stand with you, but of course that rarely happens.

In my family, I'm not married, but practially married. I don't think my boyfriend would ever get in that much of a fight with my dad because their such good friends, but if something happened and I agreed with my boyfriend I would have to take his side because I know in my heart that he's not going anywhere and I know my dad will come around. My dad has had fights with me over my ex's, he's had fights with his brother, mom, and a lot of other people, not that extreme, but he's always the first one to come around and try to make up.

But that's just my family. I think for your question it's who you agree with. If you don't agree with either then I have no idea. :)

Answer 2

It's not about believing.....in anyone....

You're married....you must stand by your husband no matter if he's wrong or not.

You will always have your father and his feelings for you should have no bearing on his feelings for your spouse. You'll just have to accept the fact that these two can not be in the same premises as each other.

You believe neither one of them. Grown men fighting and acting like a bunch of school yard bullies is rediculous....not to mention childish and immature...the very idea.... I will only imagine and BET that alcohol was the big factor in this altercation between the 2 grown men.

You need to be the disinterested 3rd party and don't play into either one of their stories.....It's the prinicipal....of the things....

Answer 3

Courts and Police? Seriously. Police are trained to investigate and arrive at the 'truth'. Courts and judges are similarly trained, with many years experience. If you don't completely trust yourself to determine "who to believe", Perhaps 'believing' in the Police Reports or Court judgments, no matter how much you would prefer not to, would be a good place to start. Keep an open mind and open communication with both your father and your husband, but start with open eyes...

Answer 4

When you get married, you separate from your parents and leave them behind. You get married to start a new family. (Its Biblical). Your responsibility is to your husband first and foremost. Even when he is wrong. He needs to know you support him when he feels like he is right. This doesn't necessarily mean that you should support him by telling him what a great job he did or telling him he was right when you feel he wasn't. In any case, being right or wrong doesn't matter. It means you hug him, kiss him, tell him you love him and let him deal with the argument he had with your father. Its none of your business anyway.

)Of course, if you know your husband committed a crime (or your father for that matter), you have a legal and moral responsibility to speak up. If you or another person are in danger, you also have a responsibility to speak up.)

Answer 5

Well, it would depend on the situation and what had happened. I am my own individual and if something happened between just the two of them, they need to work it out. It doesnt mean I have to give up my relationship with either. Personally I am against choosing sides when I have nothing to do with the situation. It would not be pretty if they both asked me to take sides or else.

Answer 6

I don't know your situation but your father helped to bring you in this world!!!! has he ever lied to you?Broken your trust? consider that when making decisions!Now on the other hand your husband is he jealous of the relationship you have with your dad? Does he always want to keep you away from family? Consider all these things then pray and ask God where you fit in all this mess!!!

Answer 7

I'd look at the facts and believe the one that makes the most sense. Look at a history of behavior. But you shouldn't have to choose. You can say to your Dad, "I love you but you were wrong to have done this..." and you can say to your husband, "You acted like a total jerk and tried to put me in the middle of it...but we'll make it through this." Don't LET yourself be put in the middle. I say choose your marriage, but that doesn't mean that you have to side with anyone.

Answer 8

I'd deny knowing them and tell the police they're both crazy and best to lock them up. And don't call me to bail them out, I'm going to the mall and buy myself something nice and I don't want to hear anything about their fight, they found a way to start it and they can find a way to end it and they're not dragging me in the middle of this.

Answer 9

You have to first address this question to your conscience. And you have to go by it.Under normal circumstances it is advisable to follow husband. But there are cases when the husband behaves very strangely, and this makes it impossible to follow him.

Answer 10

You are married to your husband and not your father. Who is going to be there when your father passes away?