how would you deal with a 16 year old teenager?

Question

who says he wants to be helped to learn but when someone tries to teach him he gets irritable on many occasions

Answer 1

Sounds like a case of A.D.D..

Answer 2

There's really nothing wrong with this teenager. Perhaps the teaching method that was employed wasn't his cup of tea. Different people learn differently. Einstein was labelled an idiot by his school teacher, but was he? There's never one single approach for every learner.

First, find out what this boy likes. If he's into movies, then use movies to reach out to him. If he's an athelete, then use an outdoor activity to help him learn. You need to know him as a person before you shove a book in his face.

Second, you need loads of patience and compassion. If the boy says he wants to be helped, it might be his way of crying out for help. Then help him. How many times does a person fall before he finally learns to ride his bicycle? Never just once.

Third, don't thrust something too difficult in his face immediately. That's probably the reason why he's irritated. Nobody likes to be rubbed in his face and be reminded of the fact that he can't do something. It's like 'Hello! I'm dumb enough! You don't need to remind me, OKAY??!!' Make every lesson an achievable task and slowly ascend the learning journey. And after every lesson, reaffirm his progress with positive words like "You can do it!" or "You know, when I was 16, I couldn't do this as well as you!"

Answer 3

First of all, I don't believe in ADD. Most kids have feelings, that does mean there is something wrong with them and they need treatmeants. Maybe he is willing to learn but when he does not understand something, he just gets frustrated and does not know WHY he doesn't understand. I feel that way sometimes. If I keep try to do something, and I can't do it, it is hard to deal with, because you think, why can't I do it even when I try? If he wants, you can get him a tutor, that may help. Good luck, I hope your son feels better.

Answer 4

You have two options:

Manipulate - make them think that what they are learning are their ideas in the first place - this does take some practice but can be done.

Make the learning fun and listen to their ideas and use phrases such as " thats good but if you did it this way............" or "maybe it would be easier if you tried it this way......"

Teenage years are a whole new experience - Good luck

Answer 5

tell him that you are trying to help him first, and that it may be hard to hear what you have to say because it may not be what he thinks, but this is just what you think might work. I think that the more kids are pushed, the more the get further away. It is hard as a parent to not want to help them, especially when they ask for it, but maybe another thing you can do is tell him. OK, try it my way this time and your way next time and see how it works.
As far as him getting upset, it may be the way you are delivering it. he may feel like you are trying to talk down to him, like when he was 6. alot of teens feel that way even when the parent is not trying to do that, but do it accidentally. If he gets upset about something that you are telling him, ask him if he already knew that, if he did. ask him what about the subject he wants to know.

I hope this helps, good luck
blessed be.

Answer 6

dont give up and be just as stubborn and irritable. I was a teacher without any qualifications and my student was the same way so yeah just play his games and let him learn how frustrating it can be

Answer 7

Call the doctor and see if he has ADD or Tourette Syndrome.

Answer 8

ADD