2006-08-03 00:40:51 · 12 answers · asked by Cool Lad 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sure there's something bad about someone whom she is close to that you can talk about... let her have a taste of her own medicine
2006-08-03 00:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by JT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like maybe you two are from different backgrounds or cultures. Are you? That would need to be addressed. If your brothers and sisters do nothing to deserve her disrespect, then its possible that she has been raised is a culture, like the mainstream "American" (US) culture which has no family values whatsoever.
If you are from a more traditional family oriented culture ie Mexican, Chinese, Indian etc, then there is bound to be friction until she comes to realize the tremendous value of close family ties. You have to help her to understand.
You also have to understand that some Americans have been so deprived of any cultural/family values and traditions for so many generations that they may not be capable of ever understanding, I have sadly seen that here in Mexico with some US-Mexican marriages.
I remember 20 years ago, my wife and I first visited her family in Mexico from Canada where we were living. I remember asking her at one point, "hey when do we ever get away from the rest of your family on this vacation?" She looked at me real funny and said, "Why, never..."
A strong and close family is an incredible blessing for all involved, I hope you work it out!
2006-08-03 01:13:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters that I think the World of. As a matter of fact I am also protective. Talk to your wife and tell her that you love her, but that she has to understand that you have a history with your siblings and they are a part of who you are.Let her know in a loving way,that if in fact, she doesn't have anything nice to say about them, not to say anything at all. If she continues to talk about them, don't discuss them with her. Change the subject or calmly walk out of the room. Maybe she will get the drift.
2006-08-03 01:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make her understand your feelings, you must understand her feelings. Its like when you give respect you get the same or in whatever manner you throw ball on the wall you get return in the same manner as you have thrown. To make your wife under stand your feelings and to get rid of her habit of taking ill of your brothers and sisters make sure that your brothers and sisters too respect your wife and understand her feeling. The change is in your hand. To change others change yourself. Look at the depth of the talk which you consider ill.
2006-08-03 00:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by kiran s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply tell her how you feel.Tell her don't talk about my brothers and sisters.Does she have siblings?If so ask her would she like it if you were talking about her family.If she doesn't understand make her understand.That's family and if she doesn't like them thats her problem.If ever you have to choose between your wife and family choose your family.They were there when you were born and they'll be there when your gone.You can't get another brother or sister but you if it ever came down to it(hope it doesn't)you can get a new wife.
2006-08-03 00:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by redanimalmuppet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried thinking from her perspective? Has something happened between them that is causing problems? Offer to listen to her concerns and see what you can do to heal the situation. Maybe there is some miscommunication going on.
2006-08-03 00:45:32 · answer #6 · answered by viclyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Siblings come along with the territory. She's just gonna have to deal with it. Honestly, if she's talking ill about them for no reason, then you do need to set her straight on it; but if her reasons are good, then you might need to hear her out. She might just be jealous of the relationship & bond you have with your siblings.
2006-08-03 00:45:44 · answer #7 · answered by sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her as " Your brothers and sisters are equally imp for you as she is" if Still she says bad things then tell her that if you tell her sister and brothers then how she would feel..
Hope this would slove your problem
Take it easy mate ! As the time pass she will understand i think !!
2006-08-03 00:49:15 · answer #8 · answered by .. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you letting your wife down rate your family.....You need to tell her to shape up...show your family respect....
Your wife obviously has a problem with her own self worth and self esteem if she has to talk badly about FAMILY....
2006-08-03 00:45:30 · answer #9 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you don't like it,and that she should stop or at lease in front of you.If she cares about your feelings she will,good luck.
2006-08-03 00:46:35 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋