hi... i've cheated on ma wife... she found out... but da girl i went out wid twisted tales n put da blame on me... i agreed it... now want to turn into a new leaf... i'm really genuine in ma attempts... shud i b 4given?
2006-08-02 23:29:54 · 28 answers · asked by prodigal_911 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hi... i've cheated on ma wife....it was ma ex girl...we had gone out for a coupla yrz an then broke up... only to meet after i got married and developed the same feelings again...... but da girl i went out wid twisted tales n put da blame on me... i agreed it... I know wat i've done is wrong... now want to turn into a new leaf... i'm really genuine in ma attempts...it's al my fault... i completely agree... but i really love my wife... shud i b 4given?
2006-08-03 00:19:27 · update #1
Even though if you are forgiven by your wife GOD wont forgive you until you realize yourself you did sin to your wife and never do it again. your love to your wife is real then why did you make such a cheat on your wife. I think you are an Indian, how did you forget our country's marriage rules and traditions which is very holy for our lives. how easily you have forget the promise you did at your marriage and the holy walk of SEVEN steps with your wife, don't you remind those things while deceiving her for another girl.
No woman would forgive you including your wife.if she is Indian, then there is a chance to forgive you and accept you again, but she never forgives u internally, she will remind the cheating you done to her.I think she will accept you just only to keep Indian culture and tradition or may be for her children future(if she have).
If you are strict about your decision then ask her to forgive and promise her that u wont repeat it again and one more thing is it takes some time for her to trust you completely.Best of luck.
2006-08-02 23:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, the first problem from what you've written is that instead of accepting full responsibility for YOUR actions, you kind of tried to pass at least part of the blame by saying the other girl "twisted tales". Twisted or not, the fact remains you cheated.
If you want to salvage the relationship, first step is to realize nobody made you cheat other than yourself. Step two is the never do it again. Step three is to ask for her forgiveness and realize that you have a long hard road ahead to re-establishing trust in her eyes... This is not going to be a quick and painless "oh, you are forgiven". Chances are, you may never be able to fully regain what you had before you were unfaithful.
2006-08-02 23:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by Physh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may forgive you but will never forget. You have broke the trust she held for you, it will take a lot to earn that back. You have hurt your wife any idea how that made her feel, she would feel a failure as a wife in bedroom , and very unloved. I was cheated on once thought i could forgive cos i loved him but every time we had arguement I through it up at him it ruined our relationship. You need to sit down and talk with your wife let her say how she feels the decison is hers to make .
2006-08-02 23:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were seduced and teased by a woman that had the intent to do so, I would forgive you.
But if you seduced her I would not be as forgiving.
Either way, If you tell her the truth, and she believes you, and you honestly repent, And it was the first time, eh...ok, but don't expect to get any for a while, like a month at least, maybe two, in fact you will probably be sleeping on the couch for a while. But be patient, she may forgive, but she will never forget.
2006-08-02 23:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't forgive you if I were your wife. You are worried if you should be forgiven. Aren't you worried how it probably destroyed your wife's feelings? Why getting married when not ready? You chated and you are as much as guilty as the girl is. Now you need to work really hard to get your wife's trust back. I hate cheaters and especially when married! Have you told your wife about it?
2006-08-02 23:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on now!
You can't even acknowledge the fact that you were responsible for cheating. How you turning a new leaf? Did the girl rape you?
I think u shud b 4gotn!
2006-08-02 23:37:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be forgiven,everybody deserve a second chance,tell your wife how sorry you are and show him that you are a responsible person,if you use to get home at 9:00P.M then get home a little earlier like 6:30P.M.,And re-new your vowls that should make her happy start afresh,and dont cheat again the is AIDS,STI's,next time think before you do.
2006-08-02 23:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by Faith Nelisiwe N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't. At least not by your wife or ex-wife. How can cheating be twisted around anyhow?
Also you should learn some proper grammar and spelling.
If your old enough to have a wife you should be able to read and write.
2006-08-02 23:33:41 · answer #8 · answered by A Drunken Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that is basically if your wife can have trust in you anymore...it is very hard thing to forget that your husband cheated on you and was with another woman..and you two have nothing special if you have went out with another woman...that was the way i felt anyway when my husband did this to me.. and i hurt so bad that he said he loved me but then how could he of done what he did...and i lost trust in him and when you lose trust in your marriage then you do not have a lot of good base to work on...it will be up to you and your wife to see if she can forgive and forget what you have done to your marriage...but if you are truly sorry and you have no intentions on letting it happen again then all you can do is talk with your wife and see if she is willing to work on your relationship...she is the one that has to give you another chance...and learning to trust you is going to be a big issue..least it was for me...and by the way i wasted 23 years with that abusive , unfaithful man and now i wish i never had..there was no real love left after that...i never trusted him and i could not believe in him anymore..but i stayed for the kids and now i wish i had not of....i tried everything i could to make that marriage work but i finally gave up because i did not love him anymore......sometimes men do not leave you much choice if they repeat their actions over again and again and then they expect the woman to believe that he still loves her..
2006-08-02 23:45:46 · answer #9 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe in time but who's to say you won't do it again. You are a married man & you should act like one. How would you feel if your wife was the one that cheated on you? It feels like **** & hurts like hell. My ex cheated on me after 28 yrs of marriage & I know how it feels & no I didn't forgive him. We are now divorced.
2006-08-03 00:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by Nancy P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋