were supposed to be planning the wedding. I asked him about it last week, he said he 's not financially ready. Do you think there's more to it besides finances because I believe he wouldn't have asked me if he didn't have enough money. What he doesn't understand though is that he shouldn't have asked me and it wouldn't have been a train smash.
2006-08-02 22:36:50 · 10 answers · asked by myyus4cedl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It doesn't really matter. You should accept any reason someone is giving you for not wanting to marry as good enough because the last thing you want is to try to build a life based on something that someone has doubts about even let alone something they straight up don't want. A divorce is one hec of a bigger train smash than this is. Yes he was wrong but was it a heat of the moment thing or did he officially propose and present you with a ring and all that? Besides when someone says something and then has no follow through its a pretty big clue that they weren't exactly serious.
2006-08-02 22:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way to figure out is if that is the issue or not is you two working together with the finance. Discuss setting up an savings account to put money in for it to save and have a "goal" in mind of how much you two want to spend on the wedding and how long will that goal take if put in X amount in the bank (50 here, 100 there etc). However, make it an "and" account. Not an "or" account so, if money is to be drawn out, both have to sign and be present I believe. Also, if you two decide to break up, an agreement on what he put in gets back and what you put in will get it back. There is various ways of doing so.
But at the same time when you two are married, he might be trying to figure out how he will support a family if his income is low.
I am unaware of your income and his so, that is as far as I can go on the topic on that.
If he bulks at it or shows no interest, I would discuss if there is something else on his mind. So, then you are not cornering him or pressuring him about it.
What's his ideal of long engagment or short engagment?
2006-08-03 05:49:26 · answer #2 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he financially not ready? Is he having second thoughts? And he might have asked you to marry him, with the hopes of a better financial situation when the time of the wedding would arrive. He may have not wanted to let you get away, and took a chance with the engagement. Maybe not right, but if you are the girl of his dreams, then he is probably feeling pretty bad that he is failing to make you happy.
2006-08-03 05:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by Nick K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This indicates to prepare a ground for going through all the ways with you...**** & forget.... find their own ways and move ahead. This was not a serious proposal for marriage. So thank GOD if you were not trapped. I wish, HE may have saved you. Good Luck and forget this episode.
2006-08-03 06:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by ASHOK S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him..maybe he really wants to give you a nice wedding and need to save some more...Maybe he believes in long engagement...Ask him:)
2006-08-03 05:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex asked me to marry him, never happened. It's just a way for an insecure guy to feel like you won't leave him.
2006-08-03 05:47:54 · answer #6 · answered by Flowergirrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not ready do not force things my dear, you will live to regret it.Give it time, it will find its way out my dear.If it was meant to happen it will, be patient,every thing happens for a purpose and on the right time it should happen.
2006-08-03 05:46:58 · answer #7 · answered by MaiTah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be in such a hurry,hes already let you know that he wants to spend the rest of his life with u.why the rush enjoy each other.
2006-08-03 05:45:34 · answer #8 · answered by lovinonly#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is vacillating and may be he proposed out of whims.
Ask him straight : what he wants!
2006-08-03 05:43:55 · answer #9 · answered by saumitra s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just want to take advantage by making you sure he want to marry you
2006-08-03 05:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by anshulgupta1988 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋