Problems with my GF's Ex. What to do?

Question

Well my girlfriend went out with her ex for like 8 months. He cheated on her like twice. Luckily I started talking to her when she broke up with him. She got over him right away. Now My Girlfriend and I have been together for 2 months but her ex still bothers. At first he wanted to fight me I backed out because I had no reason to fight him. Now he's calling me a fake that im playing off of him and he said I better ship up or llI get shipped out but not by his hands but by someone elses and he called this a Warning. I told him that Im not a fake and that he doesnt know me because he doesnt know me at all! and I said "not by your hands? you dont want to be the one to blame? so you set up somone else?" and I also said what ever happens she will never come back to you. so get it straight into your head. Can someone tell me what I can do? I dont want to deal with this anymore

Answer 1

I don't know, these situations are always very difficult. What ever you do, no matter how much you like/love your girlfriend, don't loose yourself in the process.

This is a problem of guys like you and me, of guys who are nice, emotional etc... Remember that you are a man and sometimes you have to stand against the bullies. Think very seriously what kind of behavior you can accept from other people. Tell to your girlfriend that if she's in to this with you then it's just about the two of you.

And the ex. Just simply tell him to F**K OFF! He is a bitter looser. It is your territory. Of course violence is not a good thing, just remember that you didn't back of because of fear. If you did, you will hate yourself for it. Those who can solve problems without violence are mentally really strong people. They know that if necessary, they can protect themselves. When they choose the non-violent way, it's not because of fear.

Develop your inner strength and you will know within your heart what to do in these kinds of situations. Then you don't have ask. Good luck.

Answer 2

either u and her need 2 break up
or
she needs to tell him straight up right then and there - in front of u and him and whoever else - thats she loves u and doesnt want to be with him anymore.
he might think she is just on the re-bound with u n that she'll soon be back with him
tell him that if he was a real man then he'd fight his own battles instead of getting sumone to do it 4 him - well is he scarred u might mess up his already ugly face even more? ask him that.
but SHE is the only one that can get the message across loud and clear.
she needs 2 speak up
next time he confronts you just back up a couple inches away from ur girlfriend and let her b in the spotlight.
when all eyes r on her she will feel the pressure and it will make her talk.
i know u might not wanna put her in that position but something has to give.

Answer 3

This sounds a bit like my ex. In time, he will back off. He will either bore of it, or find another woman to mess around on and make life hell for. I wouldn't give his threats much warrant. If you feel seriously threatened and feel that he really may act on it, then by all means you should go to your local police department and file it with them. You can file for a restraining order or possibly harassment charges if he does not leave you alone.
I hope this gets better quickly for you. I dealt with mine by ignoring him. When you banter back at a person like this, it gives them exactly what they want and that is a REACTION. Sometimes it is best to just not say anything and walk away. Good luck!

Answer 4

I recommend you ignore him and not try to rub his face into the fact he lost the girl.

She likes you now, not him. Sure she may have some stray feelings towards him, but definately likes you a lot more and wants to be with you.

I think the biggest mistake you could take is to criticize him or try to fight him or anything like that.

Answer 5

Some people are so silly. There is no need for violence. He sounds like a jerk. What does your gf have to say about all of this?

You can file a police report for threatening. Maybe get a restraining order.

Answer 6

Ha. Ask him if he knows what threatening means? Just let him know that a restraining order will do him good. It's useless to fight a jealous man, over something he couldn't keep. I would just use law enforcement, that's what our taxes are going to..right? Good Luck.

Answer 7

her ex is typical very insecure and just want to proof a point that he can get you to lower yourself to his face to fight with him, i would say you tell your gf see mustn't accept his calls or nothing, when you accidentally bump into him, then just great him and walk on he will try something but just walk. you are the better one so don't go on his level. if he threatens you with someones Else's hands his a big Coward!!! tell him that your not scared but i ain't worth it to let your hands on something like that piece of s*** if he goes on get a restraining order to keep him away cause your side of the story is clean.


good luck remember she loves you!!

Answer 8

thats sad. he cant get it through his head that his x moved on and is happy. and he is still bothering? what a psycho. and by him saying ill have someone handle you he dont realize thas making him look like a lil p*ussy. that is stupid. (getting someone else to do your dirty work, the only exception is if you were smaller then him, and it wouldnt be fair fighting you) any ways im all off subject. sry i just gave you my opinion and didnt answer your question

Answer 9

are you gay? be a real man and stand up for your girl. the ex is just an ***, that's what he is. maybe he's just playing with both of you. you know the typical guy, his ego was hurt. good thing i don't have problems like that with the guys i chat with on webdate*dot*com. i tell them no strings attached.

Answer 10

tell him to get off and get a life,it lookes like hes got som e issues to deal with.