my friends daughter thinks i'm her aunt.i mean i love her very much.shes like my own child.but how do i tell her i'm not her aunt?i know i'm just a family friend but ever since she was born i've been going over there to see her.she dosen't know her aunt died yet.but she thinks i'm her aunt.i'm going to collage and won't be there to see her anymore.so how do i tell her i'm not her aunt?
2006-08-02 21:53:19 · 5 answers · asked by ElEgAnTFiShIe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
People generally refer to close friends as aunt and uncle with their children. It's just an affectionate title. Unless this child thinks you are the dead woman (like calling you her name), you don't have to explain it to her. But you do need to tell her that you're going away and won't be able to see her as much as you have been, but you still love her very much.
2006-08-02 22:00:41 · answer #1 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It quite common in many Eastern cultures to refer to the non-family adults as Aunts or Uncles. It is considered a sign of respect to the elders. In fact it is considered downright rude to address and adult by their first name. For example, If you were to go to India today, most likely kids who are younger than you will call you "Auntie so and so" or "Didi" (Which is a respectable way of calling you an older sister). They have similar titles for male adults too. I believe the Chinese and the Japanese also have similar customs.
The point I am trying to make here is, why make a big issue over this? I don't think that you should feel obliged to "correct" this child at this stage of her life. Why not let her go on imagining who you are? Eventually, as she grows older, she will realize who you really are and stop calling you her "aunt." And in case, she doesn't, so what? Where is the harm in letting her think this?
Just pretend that you are in Asia and this kid is addressing you an adult, with a title of respect.
I mean, it's not like you have to leave something for her in your will because she is calling you her aunt, right?
2006-08-03 05:09:19 · answer #2 · answered by Chandru M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pull her aside, and just tell her you are not her aunt. Tell her the whole truth.
2006-08-03 04:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.....Just don't tell anything...let it be....! is it harming her or you by any way if she believes Your her Aunty! Sometimes such Lies are better than the Truth that might Just Break hearts!!!.....Love her the way you do without keeping this in your Mind!.........Cheerzzzzz
2006-08-03 05:45:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not tell when she grew she would know
2006-08-03 05:06:05 · answer #5 · answered by netnew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋