i am an office manager thinking of employing my bf as a receptionist where i work, hes more than capable and when hes temped with us before everyones been full of praise for him-do i need to tell my boss that hes my partner and if I do will they stop me employing him?Serious answers only please!!!
2006-08-02 21:14:31 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Better hire him for yur friendship
2006-08-03 05:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by Chandresh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that whether you choose to employ him or not, you have to tell your boss about your relationship with him. Not doing so can only cause either or both of you problems in the future.
Many companies have clear-cut policies about relationships at work, so may be you could try and find out about that before you do anything.
That was for the more factual part, now for the more speculative part.
A few other things you need to think of is how your other colleagues will react, whether, even you are not doing it, you might be seen as cutting him some slack, or in the reverse you might treat him worse because he is your boyfriend.
Furthermore, the work relationship is likely to affect your boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.
I work in a company where one colleague got his wife hired and a manager, although he hid the relationship, hired his cousin to do a job she isn't qualified to do at all. Both created resentment, and affected morale quite a bit.
Especially since you are an office manager, I don't think it would be a good idea.
2006-08-02 21:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by ekonomix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many couples work successfully in the same organisation; often becoming a couple through working together, so there is no employment law which prohibits this.
The issue of you employing a partner however must be considered in the light of the company's employment policy. It would be hard to show that you had not employed favouritism. A way round this would be to invite your bf and other candidates for interviews and allow another person to do the interviews and selection. If he is then chosen on merit, he deserves to be employed and no one can complain that he is your bf.
Good luck; oh, yes you definitely need to tell your boss if you just go ahead and employ him (but I strongly suggest you don't use that approach)
2006-08-02 21:30:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on where you work. If they're cool with it, it shouldn't be a problem. The fact that he's worked there before makes it more likely that they'll be alright with it.
Either way, you definitely have to tell them. Don't risk getting yourself in their bad books and looking deceitful, just to get your boyfriend a job.
I was in a similar situation once -- actually hired my boyfriend, and was his supervisor. Everyone was cool with it, and my boss was really good about it (I think because I was upfront about it and assured him that we'd be completely professional). There were some awkward times though, and I think it was sometimes hard for my boyfriend to 'report' to me. But all in all it was a good experience.
The one thing my boss was concerned about was whether our relationship was likely to end anytime soon, because obviously that would make things awkward. But at that stage, we'd been together for over a year and knew we'd be together a lot longer (we're engaged now, 5 years later!) and we'd known each other for a really long time -- so I was able to reassure my boss about that.
I'd recommend you have a think along those lines and make sure your relationship is strong enough to handle working in the same place. And also be prepared to set ground rules, like limiting the amount that you talk about work and people from work when you're away from the office.
If you take all necessary precautions, you should be fine. And it's actually kinda fun working with your partner! So enjoy, and good luck! :o)
2006-08-02 21:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by epiCure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could attend the interview and if he gets the job on his own merit then it proves he was the best person for the job.you could then let the boss know he is your boyfriend and if they deny him the job for this reason then they have been discriminative.At the end of the day if he is a good, reliable, hard working person who does his job 100% and you show him no favouritism there shouldn't be a problem. After all he could have been a stranger coming to work at your office and you could have started dating him after he got the job so you would still be in the same position.
2006-08-02 21:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by little weed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That shouldnt stop them employing him if like you say he is good at his job. But sometimes its really not a good idea working with your partner, if you argue or fall out at home you have to see each other at work and vice versa. Just remember your the manager hes the receptionist will he appreciate your role in the company is slightly above his. Give it serious thought sweetie good luck x
2006-08-02 21:20:50 · answer #6 · answered by princess tinkle UK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he would be directly under your management there may be problems due to possible favoratism over the other workers. So if you are not worried about being around your boyfriend at work and outside of work, and if you think that you won't break up badly and cause tension between the two of you, I'd say tell your boss and hope for the best for him.
2006-08-02 21:20:10 · answer #7 · answered by RTFM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look very carefully at the possible strains on your relationship employing your bf could put on you. If you feel it won't cause any issues, yes tell your bosses, they will find out anyway. If he is good he will get the job on his own merit, not cos you are the boss.
2006-08-02 21:22:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would happen if you employed someone and then started seeing them? I don't see a problem with that as it happens all of the time.
Your B/F has worked there before, so you tell your boss that you are currently seeing him and there is no reason why he should not get the job.
2006-08-02 21:52:22 · answer #9 · answered by Whisper4691 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF he is good at it then why not. But you need to consider that you will be higher up in the chain than him. How does he feel about that. If he is good at his job then your relationship is irrelevant to your boss. It's none of your bosses business. Just remember that it is a long term job now and he wont have an end date anymore.
2006-08-02 21:21:14 · answer #10 · answered by Chrissi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boy friend is more than capable, no one will stop you, i think the recruiters will realize it, and since it is a receptionist job no need worry even if you support,
We do support some people even if they are not related to us, and what if you support your Boy friend.
Doesn't matter go ahead.
2006-08-02 21:25:20 · answer #11 · answered by Arif 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋