He left his family- We have to struggle, i have a 4 month old and a 5 year olds, rent, my car taken and no job when we go to court will my kids be taken from me cause i posses nothing im worried cause my kids are my everything!, what steps can help me get on my feet....... fast!
2006-08-02 20:35:51 · 8 answers · asked by this is me... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I bet he got you thinking that way. Keep in mind that whatever he make ($) is community property. That means half his check is yours. just like the furniture, the car(s), the children, the rent, even the dog if you have one. (Does it sound good so far)?
If he was the one working and paying the bills, However good you were living while you were with him, he has to leave you in that condition. Ching! Ching! (it's called alimony).
The absent parent (him) is also responsible to pay normally 25% of his earnings for child support.
Wanna get on your feet fast? Get a lawyer and take him to court quick, don't forget the less money you have the more he has to pay for alimony!
Good Luck! ............ Its gonna be a wonderful Holiday Season!
2006-08-02 21:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First file for child support, should've done that the day he left, second find a job anything to start with, some income is better than none. You have to show you are willing and able to support your kids. Are you even sure he will try to take them? More often than not the men don't even try to take the kids, they don't want the hassle, especially if he has a new gf, they want to be alone and she most likely doesn't want to deal with someone elses kids, especially not one so young. As long as you are providing them with a safe place to live and caring for them properly you should be fine. Do you have family that can help you out by babysitting or whatever so you can work?
I don't know where you are but there are lots of progams to help you with the kids, contact WIC they help with nutritious food, formula, juice, cereal, milk things like that and other services, get on the phone with social services and see what you might be eligible for REAL quick, at least to get you through until you have a chance to get started. Just get on the phone and call every agency you can to find out what the options are in your area, don't forget places like the salvation army. I'm sorry for what you are going through, it will get better, hang in there and good luck!
2006-08-03 03:49:58 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for what you're going through, but I hope I can help rest your mind about your kids not being taken from you. Yours is not an uncommon situation, and judges frown very heavily on situations such as yours. Taking a child from their mother because she is poor is not in the child's best interest, and remember, that is ALL the judge is concerned about when it comes to custody. S/he will help you get the financial support you need to get back on your feet by way of alimony, child support (divorce need not be final to receive payments), and other social services. I was in your situation once and had the same fear. My ex basically paid for my education so I could get a good paying job to support my kids, since I had devoted their early childhood to their rearing and had no practical skills. This is a common situation. Courts don't rip children from their mothers unless there is an abusing environment. Good luck!
2006-08-03 03:49:01 · answer #3 · answered by Kattrikk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children will not be taken from you unless you are an unfit mother, abusive, or a problem with drugs etc
I Am sorry for your pain,and struggle,
you really need support groups, talk with other women that have similar situation,
i do not know where you live, but i know that if you check with social sevices,they can probably assist you in finding work and maybe housing,
i am not sure on all the details, but i will tell you this..
go on the internet, and find all the resources/opportunities and outlets that you can, and make a journal of everything that happens between you and the jerk husband, even if it seems small,keep a journal, times dates events,, etc, that will be a goldmine for you for protection and other legal issues, and o f course do not let him know you are doing this,,
i hope you have some family or friends who really care and can be supportive for you,
Don't forget God, he will open doors for you when it seems like everything is against you
god bless you , and you hang on to your children,
ok
good luck
2006-08-03 03:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since u dont have work its difficult to take care of ur kids. even if u apply for divorce i am sure it going to last for some years (if u husband dont accept for it). u can ask him to afford u money every month. i dont know whether he will do it .
if u know where he is u do onething give a police complaint on him. i dont know why u decided u get divorce if u have a job then it is very much ok to do it. be bold ,think abt ur kids and make him to live with you either by love or by violence.
nowadays laws are very supportive to women. so go on. All the Best
2006-08-03 04:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by hi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go right now and apply for custody of those kids. Go to your local social services and they will help you. They will also help to get him to pay for child support.
2006-08-03 03:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by mary c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get help from the dept of human severces on this where children are involved this would help as far as him spending time with .co. workers i really think not he found another woman sorry to say you need to look at this matter if has known to happen . my opion?
2006-08-03 03:49:49 · answer #7 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
homeless shelter is option. chances are, you will keep custody and get back many items. be patient, babe. take care of kids and give them love. god bless
2006-08-03 03:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋