I have been away from her for sometime now, I'm working in another city. There are times I miss her but I don't as much. I still like having sex when I visit but I don't trust her a little. I missed my train and I am relieved that I can be away for longer, I should miss her but I don't and the thought of having to deal with a house with no food and other amenities like having no water to drink bug me. I'll have to shop,get water and other stuff whenever I visit
.Sometimes I just want to kill her and when she sleeps, I point my finger and imagine squeezing a round into her. It isn't normal to be like this but the distance we're way; I like it. I love her but part of me is getting unhinged slowly. I'm slowly starting to hate her very existence...my love is turning to loathing for her but I still care for her.
2006-08-02 20:19:41 · 12 answers · asked by rad nick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need professional help. Go to your doctor and explain the situation. He will be able to help you.
2006-08-02 20:25:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, but in your case perhaps not. You say that on the one hand you love her but on the other you go so far as to say you want to kill her. There has to have been some incident( that you dont mention), that has triggered this situation or is it perhaps that since you are away a lot someone else has attracted you and you are now totally confused as to which way to jump? Do you consider your wife to be in the way of something? In fairness to her you really do have to sit down together, cards on the table, and BOTH get your feelings out in the open in order that you can both assess the situation & hopefully right the wrongs & get back on an even keel. Maybe you being away isnt such a good idea, as it may be building mis-trust of your wife because you 're not sure of what she could be up to , but this cuts both ways. Hope you can sort things out
2006-08-03 04:42:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to change jobs or get your family with you. The resentment you feel toward her is not normal. If she has no water to drink or food how can you expect her to be a good wife? When you married her You promised to take care of her. It was not her idea that you go away for work. Clear your head of those evil thoughts and start rebuilding the love that caused you to marry in the first place. Thinking of her only for sex makes her an object not a person. She gives you more than a hot wet spot to shove your package into. Stop thinking of her as an object and think about how she must feel. She knows more than you think about your feelings. IF going there is that bad then let her go and get a divorce. Finding places to have sex is easy.
2006-08-03 03:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been reading all your questions and I can see you really have a problem to face, how long have you been married to her?, did you spend time with her, did you show your love to her?,I know how you are feeling this way because this is how your wife is feeling too...did you ask her how she feels about you working away? if you care about your relationship I think you better move before its too late, what you are feeling now is resentment because of what your wife is showing you and giving you, she doesn't give effort of support to you and comfort, but have you thought about it why she's is like this towards you? woman sometimes doesn't speak of what they feel which is really wrong they thought that you as a husband, a husband would know how a woman feel, which I know that a man wold never ever know how a woman feel not unless a woman say it your relationship with your wife is lack of communication! Marriage doesn't work only with love and sex, it has to have proper communication, trust and respect, so i think you better ask her and sort out things between you and your wife. Because the more you think and feel bad about her everything will build up in your heart and explode without even knowing the reason of the other side, In marriage it takes two to tango!!!!
2006-08-03 04:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by wala_lang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a grip on your emotions. A runaway mind can wreck havoc on both of your lives. First of all, why can't she be with you. A marriage is a partnership based on companionship and security. You have neither so, in effect, you have no relationship. As I see it from her, your only option is to get together. Built your lives as one. You are fragmented and doomed otherwise.
You have said you don't trust her a little but don't back this up with anything tangible. Believe me, people have a strong tendency to live up to our expectations. If you are broadcasting that you don't trust her, the day will come when you can't.
2006-08-03 03:27:04 · answer #5 · answered by terterryterter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very strange... Perhaps you should see about a permanent split or divorce...
Those kinds of feelings can't be fixed by any amount of counselling... In fact that may cause more problems than it cures...
Better to cut your loses and move on, before something truly does happen and you DO squeeze one off...
2006-08-03 04:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The short answer is no, those aren't normal thoughts at ALL. Growing apart, getting "bored", enjoying time apart, questioning the relationship- all normal. Imagining emptying a round in her? Not.
2006-08-03 03:30:33 · answer #7 · answered by Kattrikk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for better or for worse and it sounds like worse to me, you need to talk to her and tell her how you feel, you never know she might feel the same way about you good luck
2006-08-03 03:24:57 · answer #8 · answered by sweetie1995 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok now you need to go to a psychatrist
2006-08-05 04:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
use the pillow of justice
2006-08-06 19:21:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋