Sometimes a police negotiator will step in to calm down those who have a gun held to their head. What is the best way to approach them? Many people incorrectly say "I know what it feels like." when sometimes there isn't ANY possibility of them knowing what that person has gone through!
But to get someone to put a gun down when it is aimed at their head has to be a pretty tough task. Any thoughts?
2006-08-02 20:18:17 · 10 answers · asked by Kivan 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Thinking about things that could lead a person to depression and suicidal thoughts, I think they must have had problems getting approval from those that would normally give them that approval. You can almost bet that a parent or close relative caused them emotional harm some way.
Everyone has issues with significant others to varying degrees, so you actually can relate in small ways to those that have gotten further down the road toward depression. I would look for those common areas and start a dialog. If the person is talking, they aren't pulling the trigger. Of course, you acknowledge that your experience is different in many ways, but you also contend that the experiences share some parts and you can understand some of their feelings.
Sometimes if you irritate them, they forget they don't want to live. It's like they find something to fight for. This is not based on experience, just thoughts.
2006-08-02 20:33:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ken C. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have a book written by the Worst Case Scenarios guys about how to do action hero stuff. There's a section how to resolve hostage crises.
But a negotiator is prolly one of the toughest jobs a cop has to do. I mean, the hostage taker could be mentally unbalanced, suicidal, etc. The negotiator is at risk, as are the hostages at all time. If the negotiator fails, and police move on, hostages can be caught in the crossfire. The negotiator can also be shot if he fails in his job.
2006-08-02 20:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by Arsh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, ideally, there would be someone there who DID know what it feels like, who would prove it; not say it. I think reminding someone that this is a step that you can't take back; it's permanent (preferably without the catch-phrase; that comes off as campy and annoying). Acknowledging that things DO suck pretty bad right now, but they CAN get better. If nothing else, it's worth a try, right?
That's all I got.
2006-08-03 08:40:45 · answer #3 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw on "World's Most Amazing Videos" (or something like that) where a guy was in the middle of the street threatening to shoot himself. The cops got a sniper, and he shot the gun out of the guys hand. It broke on impact, so there was no chance of it going off. That's what I would reccommend/do.
2006-08-02 20:29:34 · answer #4 · answered by Fat Guy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them all the reasons they have to put the gun down. Wife, kids, other family, friends, etc
2006-08-02 21:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first take that person into confidence and get the reason of his suicidal attempt.assure him that his problem will surely be looked into and death is not the ultimate end.this not the final sort of life.
2006-08-02 20:47:16 · answer #6 · answered by pallavi p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i got in that situation... I'll told that person, 'I can help you to make your life's better, so don't waste your life's here, it's worth more that you can imagined. My words is true, so please hear me..'
I think that will do.. and of course, i'll really2 try to help that person ^_^
2006-08-02 20:26:31 · answer #7 · answered by d4rk_w4t3r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the person shoots himself...he shoots no one else...a good thing....If someone jumps off a bridge....o.k...splash.....a few less depressed or deranged people in this sick world...another good thing
2006-08-02 20:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by Freddy D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be a friend
2006-08-02 21:17:30 · answer #9 · answered by hittheswitch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant unless you tell someone. easy as that.
2006-08-02 22:27:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋