should i b good?

Question

My father got married again and going 2 have a baby in months 2 come. My mother and all of my sisters and brother never wanted this 2 b happened, n my mother wanted a divorce. considering that now I have a step mother who's going 2 give me a younger sister (whether i wanted or not), should i b good at her? but i hate her for married my father and destroy the peaceness of our family!!!

Answer 1

if you asked the good question you should know.right?she the stepmother sad to say is not the complete blame for destroying the marriage @ family.he is guilty even if it is dad. since you have a sister,half sister she has your blood in her. except that because its reality. you don't have to hate or like anyone. however if you love your dad respect the situation. because this is what he chose. for your real mom she deserves so much more and in due time she will get more and that does not mean she will remarry. we all reap what we sow so, good things will happen for your mom as well as you. and your dad if hes happy well except that as well. you don't have to like anything but peace is best. this new woman will never ever replace your mom we all know this. let time run its coarse who knows what the future holds. maybe, something better is in store for you and your mom and other family members if you have them. you sound like a nice person or you wouldn't be caring enough to ask. so yes!!!!!be good. why, because you are!! thanks Kat

Answer 2

Of course you should be good. There is no reason for your father to ask you whether you want a brother or sister or not. She didn't destroy the peacefulness of your family, she couldn't have. People don't come with pink slips, they aren't owned and therefore can't be stolen. What do you think she is magic? If there was truly happiness and contentment in your parents marriage she could have busted through the door with a shot gun and it wouldn't have destroyed your family. Obviously your father wasn't happy. Your mother needs to figure out what went wrong in the marriage and what her contribution to its failure was and move on. Why don't you grow up some and try to be glad for your fathers happiness and try to help your mother and siblings move on. Hanging on to hatred only hurts you. They apparently are proceeding with their lives quite nicely. You seem to have forgotten who the parent is here. No reason to blame the baby, it had nothing to do with any of it and is the only truly innocent being in the whole scenario, why hate it? Good luck, these things do get better and once everyone moves forward it usually turns out to be a good thing.

Answer 3

You sound quite young and I feel for you for what you're going through, but sweetheart you need to learn to accept your stepmother otherwise it could become very difficult to live with.
Give her time to prove her self and although you dont have to like her just try and be nice....Remember it wasnt intirely her fault for your family break up....Your father obviously loves this woman to marry her and if you love your father you need to show him by learning to accept her....Your step mother is not there to replace your mother but to give your father the happiness and joy he was lucking with your mother.....Give it time, one day when you get older you will understand that sometimes to live in a loveless marriage is not worth it, even if it means hurting so many people.
I have been in a loveless marriage now for 13 years and the only rreason I stay is because of my kids, but let me tell you, I think I am not doing my kids any favours as they always see their mother miserable and depessed.....They will grow up believing this is normal for a marriage union and that is so wrong...
Is it not better to see your father happy then miserable....I know your mother is not happy with all this, but once she finds someone special in her life she would understand too....

Answer 4

she did not destroy your family. Not knowing any details to your parents divorce reasoning I cant say. But she will be the mother of your baby sister. she is an adult and your father loves her. That is reason enough to respect her even if you dont love her.

Answer 5

Yes, you should be good. It's not your step mother's fault that your parents aren't together anymore, apparently it's your mother's.
And, no offense, but they don't have to ASK you if you want a new sister. You are part of the family, yes, but now your stepmother is part of the family, too.

Dear, it will get easier with time to accept these two new members. Just have faith, and remember--treat others as you want to be treated.

Answer 6

Grow up lady your father is a grown man and you really don't have any say in what he does with his life. "KEEP YOU MOUTH SHUT" enjoy you new baby brother or sister and stop acting like a jealous wife cause your not. and stop listening to your mother she's an evil bitter woman with nothing to do but try and destroy what you have left with your father don't let her do it.

Answer 7

Would you like your father to interfere in any of your own future relationships? You are being immature. He has made a decision about his life so respect it. How many children he has is not something he needs to consult you about and I am sure he has not made his second wife pregnant just to spite you or anybody else. Think about how HE must feel and stop being so self absorbed.

Answer 8

Give her some respect! You don't have to like her, but your dad loves her enough to marry her and have a child with her. Love that little sister to death..it may change your relationship with stepmom for the better!

Answer 9

the baby had no choice in choosing the parents or its family, you should give the baby all the love it can handle. as far as the new mother in law, give her a chance to earn your respect. your father is living his life, hopefully you are happy for him and he is happy in the choices you have made for yourself...remember, we cannot live other peoples lives, only be happy for them!

Answer 10

how old r u?? its your life i mean dont go out of your way to be a punk but avoid her if you can! I feel for you cause kids dont ask to be apart of drama between parents it just happens like that sometimes. Its best to just be yourself and make sure you are happy in the long-run!