I have a friend?

Question

I have this friend and she acts like we're real close like best friends but she never wants to do anything with me or go anywhere together. A lot of times she won't even talk to me on the phone and I feel as if she's avoiding me. Am I just being over sensitive, I mean it's not like I bug her all the time, I just care about my friends and like to do things together.

Answer 1

I don't think you're being overly sensitive. I think you are beig perceptive and reading between the lines.
I had a friend like this. Personally, I call it a 1-way friendship.

This girl might not want to hurt your feelings by saying that you guys don't have anything in common, so she decided to just be poiltie, or she is just a person who is immature in friendships and can't communicate with you for whatever reason.

My suggestion is to do one of 2 things. Either confront her as I did a friend once and ask her the same thing I did him, "Either we're friends or we are not. If not, tell me and that's fine, but if we are, how about telling me why we don't even talk?'
Or what I really think you should do is to put yourself in the drivers seat, in charge instead of letting her be the important one. Ask yourself if you want a friend who treats you like that.
I had another friend like that once and told her this is a 1-way thing, you want to takl with me when YOU want to and don't respond to me, so f-off.
You deserve more than that treatment your friend is giving you. I personally want true friends and will not pretend somenoe is my friend when they don't reciprocate, extend themselves, or initiate anything. she is not showing an interest in you. I know it hurts to lose a friendship, but if she wants you let her come to you. Don't go after her, which makes her the big deal.
Give her the message that you don't need her, by ignoring her back if she does call or some odd thing. Then innocently say, "oh, the way you were treating me before, I thought you wanted me to stay away, so I never called."
What I am saying is do not do 1-way relationships. Either they call me sometimes or screw them. Get REAL friends.
I am not trying to be mean, just thinking of whats best for u.
good luck

Answer 2

Your not being over sensitive. i have been thought this before and it does mean that she doesnt care about you any less it just means she other people shes closer to. Are you Best Friends or is she just a close friend? and have you tried talkin to her about the way you feel? Good luck and remember you dont need to live in each others poket to be good friends you are allowed space.

Answer 3

just hang around wit her more if she dosent leave her