I have been dating this guy on and off for 6 years and only recently has it gotten pretty serious...He is an amazing guy but the only problem is that he gets so jealous about guys in my past that i never talk about or bring up, that he goes around digging for information on. He is also very jealous of my friends because they tend to spend more time with me because i go to school with them. I dont want to bag him cause i know if he wasn't so jealous he would be the absolute perfect catch. So i just need an effective way to help him get over his jealousy.
2006-08-02 19:49:50 · 7 answers · asked by Lemmenhoppus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My ex husband was so jealous, it got to the point where I couldn't see or talk to family and friends, then came the abuse and violent, then came my daughter. Looking back I am happy we disappeared, or else we would be dead now.
You can't change someone who is very jealous. Don't make the mistakes I made. If you move on and get new boyfriend and he is jealous, becareful.
2006-08-02 19:58:07 · answer #1 · answered by Pahoua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it doesn't appear that you are making him jealous, if he is digging around for information. Ask him why is he digging when he can just go straight to the source..which is you! It sounds like he is insecure with himself, or may have come out of a relationship where someone has cheated on him, but you need to discuss his behavior, and tell him, if he does not trust you, or keeps getting jealous over nothing, you are going to have to dissolve the relationship.
Don't threaten to leave him, just be honest, let him know how you feel, how you truly feel, tell him it bother's you and you feel uncomfortable when he behaves this way. Everyone gets jealous every now and then, but there are limitations!
You might want to introduce him to some of you school friends so he won't be so insecure. Include him in on things you do with your friends so he can feel apart of your social life. But if he starts tripping out on you, then hey, I gotta give it to you straight,
drop his butt and get over him, guys who are extremely jealous can be extremely dangerous as well! So listen to your gut instincts when dealing with this guy.
I know your heart says one thing, but your instincts maybe telling you something different, so have that talk with him and watch his response, and his physical movement, and his eyes, make sure you are very serious when you talk to him, otherwise it will go right over his head and he will continue acting the fool!
2006-08-02 20:14:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone would be perfect if.........
the problem with jealousy is it is usually the first sign that a man is an abuser. it is about control, he wishes to control you. you shouldn't do anything to set off his jealousy, right? no,no,no, hon you wont be happy under that umbrella.
you should be allowed your friends, you should be able to speak of your past, it is what has made you who you are. if you cant be open with him, if you have to hide friendship you are with the WRONG man. i know its not what you want to hear, but mark my words. you will be happier without him. I've been there.
2006-08-02 20:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by mypurpleelephant 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont give him any cause for jealously and reassure him always that what is past is past . U cannot undo the past but look to the future. He is insecure in your love.
2006-08-02 20:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by lynnbtohs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid gestures, behavior and conduct that make him jealous , females know this by instinct.
2006-08-02 19:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by Nilehawk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down with him and talk to him and be honest with him, let him know that you dont like it and if he cant stop acting like that you will have to move on, if he hasnt got any better believe me it will only get worse good luck
2006-08-02 20:07:28 · answer #6 · answered by sweetie1995 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him some self-esteem training. jealousy is all about personal fear and insecurity brought on by self-doubt and insecurity, etc. some self-esteem training might help you also to see why you are drawn to someone who is paranoid and insecure.
2006-08-02 20:04:33 · answer #7 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋