i have been with my boyfriend 9months now and just lately we have been arguing over silly things then we split up and end up back together,the smallest things can annoy me about him but i never use to be like that. he says i have changed because i use to always cuddle/kiss him and now i dont show him love like i use to.we've just agreed to split up again and im wondering if anyone has any ideas about what i should do?shall i call it a day or try and work things out.
2006-08-02 19:45:56 · 22 answers · asked by nikki 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
haha thats love honey......ive been with my girl friend 2 years ..we always argue about lil things but hey in the end we still love eachother...we 2 diff people wit 2 diff personalities..clashing will always b there ....but this thing about u not showing him love is showing something...looks like ur pushing away and dont like the situation......
i dunno bout ur boy...
but
guys dont like 2 sit their and talk things out and the moment of arguing we need 2 leave the situation 2 calm down.were not trying 2 ignore we just neave 2 blow off some steam...we can talk about it later
2006-08-02 19:57:40 · answer #1 · answered by mikey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the fact that you guys once split up and got back together again, it only means you love and can't live without eachother. There's a bond that keeps you guys attached. In every relationship, good and open communication is vital. Even the smallest things matter. and small things end up big. Once you're bothered with those small things even silly things, discuss it with him in a really nice way and be straight and specific. Guys prefer it that way. Now that you guys split up again. take time to think about everything you've gone through with him. this is the right time to know what your feelings really are. If you can't stop thinking about him then that only means you can't go on without him. Give him time to think too. as for now, try to unwind and relax.
2006-08-03 03:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by chubbychubz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We almost have the same situation. I even had an argument with my bf last night, but we end up hugging and loving each other. What we did is we talked and look for the root of the arguments that we're having for the past few days, and it came out that I just don't feel loved and cared anymore.. I told him that maybe I just want his attention. And he agreed to that and said sorry to me. And before we have this feedback card every month but 3 months ago we weren't able to do that because we are so busy at work, so last night we have decided to continue it so that little things or problems will not pile up and so that we will always feel loved by each other.
To you and your partner, I suggest that you talk and have an open communication. Tell him how you really feel and what's the cause of you being upset even with little things for sure there's an underlying reason for that.
Hope that would help! *wink
2006-08-03 02:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by yummy _me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends how old you guys are? I think it's a sign that you might just need some space for yourself? If you love him and you are sad without him, I would just give myself a couple of days to breathe and then maybe contact him and see how you guys get on. But arguing is a normal part of a mature relationships. Teenagers normally think that relationship should be always smooth but when you get older, you will realise that life has different problems and so relationships have their ups and downs. Maybe reassure him that you love him and you want things to work out, you just need a few days on your own to do your own thing. I think people make often mistake to think that they need to spend every single day together. I would disagree. If you guys spend time apart doing your own thing, you will look forward more to spending time together and you will be happier to see him and your relationship may be back to where it was. It just depends on how much you like this one.
2006-08-03 02:55:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honey my ex husband and i did that a lot we never could be happy we would both try so hard and its like we hit a brick wall don't think i am an old woman i am 23 and this was about 4-5 yrs ago i know what its like try a change stay single or become single don't run back and forth it wont work that way break yourself off now and enjoy your life to the fullest trust me i know just date people and go out have fun maybe you don't need a boyfriend at the moment live it up girl
2006-08-03 02:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by VALVARYNE M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... everyone loves the start of a new relationship! i sure do! theres nothing better. but u should try to think about the things that u guys argue about. because if he continues to annoy u then maybe u guys should see other ppl. try to take a break from each other to see if u really want to get back with him, then after a while talk to him again and see how he feels. Good Luck!
2006-08-03 02:51:35 · answer #6 · answered by Carly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are argueing so much its not meant to be. What started the argueing, think back what happend then. Did something change? Someone cheat? Its best you found out now, cuz if you got married down the road and got divorced, you would be thinking of how much better you could have been by finding someone better.
2006-08-03 02:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by Pahoua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's only been 9months so its still kind of fresh. But if your arguing now the arguments are going to turn into fist fights later. Let it go love!
2006-08-03 02:50:39 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. Educated 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love him and he loves you back and no third party is involve then i suggest - you should try to work things out. i always argue with my man and i love him dearly. if cuddles and kiss are all he wants then perhaps you can try to be more affectionate and show off more how you feel about him. there is nothing wrong with a little romance.
2006-08-03 02:54:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just recently in a relationship just like that and I found out that the best thing for me and him was to remain friends and it's alot better like that. I would rather have him as a friend than nothing at all. Maybe you and him can do that. I hope everything works out for you.
2006-08-03 02:52:53 · answer #10 · answered by michelle f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋