I'm sick and tired of feeling hurt and pain, My ex and I broke up 2wks ago and he has already moved on. When does the pain stop? I never wanted to break up with him, but I had too. I'm tired of hurting and even more tired of crying. What do I do? Cuz I'm not ready to have anyone close to my heart right now
2006-08-02 19:44:58 · 21 answers · asked by Ms. Educated 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just let your pain subside on its own, and eventaually it will stop. Unfortunatly there is no pill to take for a broken heart. But the best thing to do is stay away from him and do not do anything that reminds you of him or the way things used to be between you two. And please wait awhile before moving on to another boyfriend, because he will only be acting as a filler for the void.
2006-08-02 19:48:49 · answer #1 · answered by jazminestarhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having another someone will never be the way to ease the pain in you. Start letting go first. Instead of being bitter and sorry for what happened, think of the good old memories you had with him and just feel good that once in your life you have met and shared an important relationship with him. Try toknow and realize the faults on both sides, if you know you gave all your best and still he had to leave you, don't feel so dumped coz you have all the reasons to feel good about yourself. Find your self worth and find yourself back again. You should even be proud if you've done everything for him beczuse you know for yourself that you didn't give him the reason or you didn't have shortcomings on your part. Pls cheer up, somebody more special awaits you in time...you'll meet him. Let go, heal and live anew.
2006-08-02 19:52:03 · answer #2 · answered by leelee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's nature. most guys move on faster than women. women are very emotional and takes longer to recover. In order to start moving on. Be strong enough and take the first step. First step is to get rid of everything that reminds you of him. Take away everything he gave you, pictures, etc. Second is to change your daily routine, specially those routine you've shared with him. Explore and try new things, things you haven't done or dying to try. Third is Go to the parlor and have a make-over (that worked best on me) I even felt my most beautiful during those times. Fourth is Go to the gym often and release your anger and pain (this one's also effective), at the same time it'll keep you healthy and make you look great. Fifth is reunite with your best girl friends, go malling and shop shop shop! Sixth is go out, be it barhopping, ice skating, having coffee, partying and meeting new friends! It's a big big world out there waiting for you! always remember that when God closes a door, a window opens! there's a rainbow always after a rain!
2006-08-02 20:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by chubbychubz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just take things day by day. the pain of breaking up doesn't go away overnight, unless you are doing the breaking up. it's healthy and natural for the heart to ache and for you to feel this way. but it does eventually subside. and if it doesn't, then you really need to seek professional help, in case you have any coping mechanisms that need to be dealt with. but a healthy break up usually takes about a couple of months to get over. just keep moving foreward. and if you have to stop and think about this person, that is okay, just remember though that there were reasons for this that you might not see until later in life. you WILL be okay. just take it easy for now. don't worry about seeing other people. you are definitly not ready. take care of yourself. it's okay to be alone sometimes. and it's okay to cry. you wouldn't be human if you didn't. smile. take things day by day.
2006-08-02 19:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by vbg2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to find some other interst. You do not have to jump into another relationship. Give yoiur self some time. When you meet some one else , just take it slow. The pain will go away but he might still stay in the corner of your heart. Best of luck . Pem
2006-08-02 19:51:20 · answer #5 · answered by Patricia M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As each day goes by, the pain will get less and less.
Just try to take something positive from this experience and look forward to meeting someone else and the new experiences you'll have with him.
2006-08-02 19:50:41 · answer #6 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... theres only one thing that u can do. try to find someone that understands ur feelings... dont let them get too close at this moment but open up to them. its always better to talk about ur feelings then to just keep them bottled up inside of u! Ive figured that out the hard way but the easy way too. Trust me... if hes moved on... then its time for u to move on too! Good Luck!
2006-08-02 19:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by Carly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just show him your better than any woman he is ever going to be with!! - move on girl you can find a great guy because your the best and don't not forget that. OK!! You will be just fine. Good luck !
2006-08-02 19:52:20 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep youself occupied. Do something. Concentrate on your studies or job or get a hobby,.Most important is to keep your mind occupied so you wont think of the hurt you arefeeling right now so much.
2006-08-02 19:50:55 · answer #9 · answered by lynnbtohs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex did the same thing. Just helped me refocus that letting go of him was a great choice. If he's that weak willed to the opposite sex that he can't even respect a decent amount of healing time then something is right upstairs.
2006-08-02 19:48:35 · answer #10 · answered by gnomef0cker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋