i came home from work about 3 nights ago to find my husband with 3 other men and he didn't seem to care that i was upset at all. before that, he had been asking me what my thoughts were about a threesome but i kept telling him i didn't want that. now i'm not sure if my husband is gay or if that was a setup for the threesome. but what really confuses me, was that if he really wanted a "3" sum, there would be 3 of us, not 5... plz someone help me, what can i do and what are my options?
2006-08-02 19:43:46 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you found him having sex with the men ...
If this is the case, you CAN divorce for infidelity--it doesn't matter that he was cheating on you with men.
The fact of the matter is, if you had discussed it and you told him that you WEREN'T comfortable with it, he should have respected your wishes and kept it between the two of you. If he is gay, there is nothing you can do about it, and you need to decide if you're going to spend the rest of your life with a gay man.
On the other habd, maybe he gets off by watching you have sex with other men--and if that's the case, and you're comfortable with that, then go for it.
It's a sticky situation and you more than likely just need to see your way out of it. Go get a lawyer, darling. Good luck!!!!
2006-08-02 19:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by Bachman-ette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To answer your question i believe that he is gay and if not fully gay he is bisexual... you need to sit w/him and ask him if he is confused and what is it that he really wants....you need to be the ONLY one that he should be having sex with....if you allow him to treat you like this he will never respect you....tell him you will not tolerate adultry...my inmost thought to you is that you keep him in prayer... if he can't decide what he wants...seperate for awhile so that he knows you mean business...if he doesn't see the light, then he wasn't worth having and you deserve better....if you ever need to share any thoughts i'm here for you...take care and remember w/o God nothing is possible but through Him all things are possible...and prayer is powerful.....if you really love your husband and want to mend your marriage....God is the answer, He will never let you down and you may not trust anyone else but you can always trust the Lord 'cause He will never forsake you nor leave you......
2006-08-03 03:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by LBOOGIE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as a threesomeologist myself, I must tell you there's no other option but for you to give in, maybe invite a few women into a the group and make it an 8-some. Hell, invite some animals in too, maybe even a few kids. Make it a 15-some! Those are the best! Just experiment, afterfall, it's YOUR marriage!
2006-08-03 02:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Richelds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you really don't want this, why should you agree to it or stand such an attitude? I can not really give you an final advice because it is your own choice, but I think this is kind of immoral act and you should give him up.
2006-08-03 03:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by anina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is your choice you have to decide if thats what you want , and as your husband he should respect what you want NOW, if he is gay than thats a whole nother story!
2006-08-03 03:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by this is me... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like all the syptoms of a downlow brother to me!!!!
2006-08-03 09:32:32 · answer #6 · answered by cocoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's gay or bi that's it end of story, decide if you want to stay or go its very simple. cause he has already made his choice.
2006-08-03 02:48:56 · answer #7 · answered by 4stringthndr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you made this up, not funny or interesting.
2006-08-03 03:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by Discovery 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋