Why is it that working moms and dads look down on stay home moms?

Question

I"m a stay home mom.
I put in more hours a day than most working people do in two.
i get up by 7am and dont get to bed untill 3 to 4 am. and i only get maybe a hour to myself.

Answer 1

I know what you mean. I left my job to get pregnant and I am about to become a stay at home mom any day now. All of my friends work, even those with kids. They just don't seen to understand that being a mom will be my job, and by the time I would work and pay for daycare I would not really bring any money home anyway.
Even some of our family members thought I would be going back to work after the baby arrives, but we would like more kids and I really want to take care of my baby myself.

It amazes me that women fought to have more right to choose and when you choose to stay home you are definitely looked down upon by most! I support my friends right to work, why would they put down my right to stay at home.

Answer 2

They r jealous becos u can keep the house and family without depending on others, U also can enjoy the joy of watching your children grow. They keep working becos they want to keep the facade of looking successful.in society. The working dads have the misconception that stay home moms let their figure go and dont dress properly when they go out. They dont put on make up etc. On the other hand the working mum may need the cash 2 help out the family. There r both sides 2 every situation .

Answer 3

Well, first of all, no one wants to hear how hard you work. We all work hard.

Number two, people look down on you because they feel that they are superior to you in some way because they bring home a paycheck and you don't. They also consider you unintelligent, because all smart people work, at least according to them.

What they don't realize is that not only are you enjoying being with your children and taking care of your family, but your job is of utmost importance because you are raising and training and nurturing the future of our country and our society. They also don't realize that you are giving your children the most important thing in the world: Yourself. And money can't buy a mom.

The way I look at it, if you don't do a good job raising your children, then you're a failure of the worst kind. Stop caring about what other people think. Enjoy your children, enjoy your life, and be proud of what you do. You can always "get a job," but your children can't get another mom.

Answer 4

Now I am working mom myself, after staying in home for several years, so i can see the situation from the other point. This is not about the fact of staying in home, but about the picture of world. Working moms have the same responsibilities as home stay moms have(babies and household). But home-stay mothers dont have the part of the life-experience, that working moms have. It is the experience of being not only the mother, the wife (typical female roles), but also the professional person in the worls of business, that is very different from the house world. This adds self-respect. I cant imagine myself being stay home mom now, because i dont want to live the life for the baby, i want to live it WITH the baby and want my baby to be proud of me, not only bacause i am the mother, but also because i am successful professional person.

Answer 5

Well in life it seems that people like to put others down to make the feel more comfortable with themselves...Stay at home moms are very important because they provide first hand loving and care for the children. I think that maybe the working parents are jealous or sometimes so selfish that they put themselves first and the family eventually suffers. That's my take.

Answer 6

House chores are really a tough job, madam, and hats off to you.

Comparitively easier is a job, where you have a pleasant time,
going by the clock, routine yet exciting work, getting to know so
many people, with new ideas, financial security, a sense of
greater responsibility and getting paidfor it. All this changes the perspective one has about life, and feels that if both parents work,
they could life a better life and be able to afford domestic help for daily household chores.

Answer 7

I think it is the same reason that there are stay at home moms that look down on those who choose to work. They want to believe they are doing what is the best for their kids, so they automatically assume that the other must be wrong. I have done both, I worked when my oldest was little, now am at home with my two youngest. I think there are good and bad sides to both.

Answer 8

WOW you have a busy day. I am NEVER awake that early or long. I'm a stay at home mom too!!! LOL

Maybe those people are jealous that WE get to stay at home? Or they WISH they could stay at home?

My husband would HATE being MR. MOM!!! He has absolutely NO patience with our kids. He gets BORED faster than anyone I have ever met. He has NO clue on how to do things with the kids. LOL HE HATES Wal*Mart!He cannot do more than one thing at a time! LOL

Answer 9

Probably because they think that since the stay at home mom isn't earning money, she is not working, even if she does do the work of a maid, nanny, and other workers 24/7.

Answer 10

because they are jelouse that you can stay at home and they have to trudge off to work.
Also some parents have to both work in order to live, and maybe they envy that you don't have too.

I choose to go back to work and that's fine as it was choice and I enjoy working outside the home. Plus both my kids are at school. But sometimes I do wish that I were at home during school holidays etc; but life just isn't like that.