2006-08-02 19:17:06 · 12 answers · asked by minue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I dont know what state your in but i was in the same situation. My mom didnt give a crap either. Sometimes our parents are on drugs at the time and are very immature while we are still young. Im 29 years old and i recently tried to report my uncle who molested me for 10 years. In texas they said you have until your 28 to report it, but thats in Texas. So it was too late to do something about my uncle. But you should do something now, it wasnt your fault and you can save other kids by doing something now. If it happened in city limits call the police dept. You may feel akward but once you start telling your story you will feel the concern on the other end of the phone. If it happened outside city limits call the district attorney. You can google it. Take a stand. You'll learn that even though your mom hurt you tremendously and didnt give a crap when you told her you'll have to forgive her later on so you can move forward. gOOD LUCK AND TAKE CARE.
2006-08-02 19:25:06 · answer #1 · answered by Kristi A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you do. You do not say how old you now are, but it is highly likely that she was having problems, probably nothing like those being experienced by yourself, which she had to take into consideration. These may well have been financial, living accommodation and even food for her child(ren). It is very easy to be blessed with that wonderful gift of hindsight but when you are up to your neck in problems, it is very easy to turn a blind eye to things like you refer to. Now you can be adamant that there was no excuse but depending on the time period, you have to remember that police, social services and the public in general did not believe that child abuse was a problem. It is, and always was the curse that it now proves to be. I would respectfully suggest that you speak to your mother, if you can and ask her quietly and gently why she did not take any action. You will be probably surprised by her answers and end up with pity for her. I know from experience that it is very hard to move on, but one must. The person responsible was the person who inflicted his will upon you and you must realise that is the truth. Blame can be shifted around in a circle but you get nowhere following that path. At this stage of your life, as long as you ensure that your children are safe and protected and determine that nothing like what happened to you will ever happen to them, you are beginning to see light at the end of the tunnel. It is very easy to say 'forgive' - I shall never, ever and I am sure that you are the same. If the person responsible is still alive and in your area, even at this late stage inform the police so that he cannot harm any other children..................God bless, take care............
2006-08-02 19:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by thomasrobinsonantonio 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It,s not that you didn't matter. I don't know how old you are now, but your mother might have been afraid. This outing of sexual abuse really just happened in the last few years.
2006-08-02 19:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by doglover 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
omg i'm so sorry that happened to you,my little sister has a friend who get abused b y her uncle and her mom knows about it but she's done nothing about it,if you want to talk send me a message.What your mom did is WRONG.i think you should ask her why she didn't do anything.You should tell her that you felt hurt and that the one person your supposed to rely on and come to with anything wasn't even there when you needed her the most.Just tell her how you feel and maybe she'll have a justifiable reason for not havin done anything.
2006-08-02 19:22:34 · answer #4 · answered by curious lupi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
denial and prob scared as hell I dont blame my mom for it at all my father was abusive and would prob have killed us both if she said anything its a natural protection for survival. Anyway Im ok now I forgave my father but I refuse to talk to him ever again and my mom is far enough away from him so I feel good !
2006-08-02 19:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she probably didn't want to believe that this person was cable of doing it(denial),but if your still haunted by it,and old of enough to take matters in your own hands.(law).
2006-08-10 19:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by little momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i want to say I;m so sorry for what you went through when you were younger,
I never told, and you were so brave to tell---sorry nothign came of it though.
I was 5 when it started---11 when i finally stood up to my uncle for it to stop-----he had me so afriad to tell i never did
No one knows---and untill last year i was never in coucniling-----i finally broke----because had so much inside i was hiding
your mother was wrong----and when i have kids i will always beleive them-----nothign shoudl come befoer your kids!
2006-08-06 17:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what I wish I had an answer for you .The very same thing happened to me.
2006-08-02 19:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by DeLightful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably denial. you matter t her, unless she is a cold hearted *****. was it her husband boyfriend or brother or a family member or an old family friend. my good friend went through the same crap.............talk to her......she probably was in denial,
2006-08-02 19:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she was just probably in denial that time. of course you matter to her. youre her child. some people just aren't expressive.
2006-08-02 19:22:00 · answer #10 · answered by poppy_bloom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋