Should i divorce ?

Question

im a married man with a one year old daughter i love my wife and my kid a lot...but i feel my wife is not the right person who adjusts with my family my father has got a habit of insulting people at their face ...he does that to her as well intially she never used to back answer him but recently she has started doing it.. my father once took away her ornaments without her knowledge to avail loan on it .. when she discovered it she was angry she came and said the same to me i went ahead to ask my father about it .he said as this is his house and we are staying with him he can do anything in the house and started insulting my wife and her family a lot ..she kept quite and said that she cannot adjust here and is insisting on us to move away from them ..how can i leave them i am their only son she says that she can keep contacts with them but not stay with them should i go ahead and divorce her

Answer 1

you should listen to your wife i am an only child and i live my life the way i want my parents have no control over what i do my family comes first you need to grow up and get the hell out of your parents house

Answer 2

Man, It would no be fair if you divorce her because of this reason. I feel insulting any one is straight away violation of BASIC human rights. I feel she has not married you to get insulted. If your father find some thing the wrong way , he can also express that with out insult or anger. But as you said it is his habit and i feel he might not change. So in this case try to built a bit resistance either by you or your wife backed by you or combined. i will never suggest that you insult your father in return.

Secondly taking away ornaments with out permission , even if he had to use for a minute is theft.

Thirdly , i felt that you are being fed by your father and don't have much earnings to live your own. If this is the case then try harder to earn living before you leave or you may ask your wife to work too.

I will advise to try building pressure upon your father keeping with in manners and not leaving now, but if the conditions persist you should leave. You can come back always. Your father may change in response.

Answer 3

Are you seriously considering divorcing the woman you love and married? You have a 1 year old child also. I think ( I may be off a bit ) that you should grow up! Stop being a 'mommy's boy' and start your own life with your new wife and young child. You need to stand up to your disrespectful father and let him know that it is NOT OKAY for him to insult (joking, or matter of factly) your wife. You all need mediation/counselling so that this does not break up your new family or your relationship with your parent(s). If you are their only child they will come around if any thing for their grandchild and start being more respectful. Maybe you should move out into a one bedroom place and try to do it on your own; if it doesn't work, then you can say to yourself and your conscience that you tried!!!

Answer 4

If you are married, why are you living with your parents? It is now your turn to be a husband & parent to your child. I am amazed your wife lasted this long. Why would you allow your father to speak to your wife the way he does? You are now an adult and he needs to treat both of you that way and with respect. And why would you even consider divorcing her? You need to be a man now and stand on your own two feet and create your own home for your own family. This is what children do, grow up, move out, get married, make a home, have children, etc. Sounds like you can't break from being a child & your parents should have encouraged you to be your own man.

Answer 5

You're married to her and she is the most important person in your life. If she isn't, you've got things all wrong. A man is supposed to put his wife first. Your parents have each other. You are supposed to grow up and leave home and have your own family. Your wife didn't tell you you had to divorce your parents, she just can't live there, and I don't blame her. She's got a weak husband who won't stick up for her.

But your Dad is right, too. It IS his house. If you don't like it, move.

Instead of calling a lawyer for a divorce, you need to be calling U-Haul to move your sorry butt outa there. You'd be surprised how happy that will make your wife. You deserve your own place. You NEED your own place, in order to help your marriage to survive.

Your father is abusive, and nobody should have to put up with that, especially your wife. Next thing you know, he'll be beating on her, and maybe your daughter, too.

Save your marriage. Save your sanity. Grow up and take responsibility for yourself and your family. You are capable and can progress toward what is right and good. Visit and respect your parents as you should, but don't put up with abuse.

Answer 6

NO!!!! You need to get a backbone. Your wife and family (the one you made with her) come first. You can move out, just because you are their only son doesn't mean they own you. Don't let your father treat your wife like that most of all don't let your child see this. It's not good for your daughter to think it's okay for people to treat other people this way. I was in a very similar situation, and we moved out, we still saw his family and things between all of us got much better. Yes his family was mad at first, but they got over it. If your father loves you then he would want you to be happy, think about your happiness and your wife and daughter their well being comes first not your father's. Good luck (get counseling)

Answer 7

Grow up and move out of home. You married your wife she is your new family. I can't believe that you will not stand up for her against your father. Your father is treating her like dirt and if anything she should be divorcing your sorry butt. When you married her you made a commitment to her and any family you have. You are willing to leave her and a child to live with your parents? Something is wrong with you. Get her a good home where she can be happy and grow up if you are married its time to leave your home and stand up to the ******* father that treats your wife so bad-he should be shot and pissed on.

Answer 8

I think your wife was on here asking a question ... does she say that your father asks her for money?

In either case, the marriage should be about you and her and your daughter, not your father. He has no right to disrespect him, and you guys need to move out and be on your own.

If my fiance's father insulted me all the time, you damn skippy I'd end up talking back to him. Why would you let him insult your wife--the love of your life--like that? Your wife doesn't need to adjust to your father, he needs to adjust to her, and he needs to respect her.

You may be their only son, but you need to cut the umbilical cord and MOVE OUT. Divorce from your wife is NOT the answer!

Answer 9

what the heck is wrong with you?

should you divorce? no, should she leave you? YES

your father is insulting her, you are not even defending her. damn boy.....I am surprised she is till with your sorry butt.

why not grow a pair, save up some moolah and move you and your family the hell out of your PARENTS home.

obviously you cannot change your father, he sounds like a jerk, who wants to be insulted daily?????

lets break this down, when you married your wife, SHE became your family, your blood, and now you have a child with her, even more family here.

be a man, or hell, divorce her and let her find a MAN, not a little whiny mamas boy who can't even stand up for the woman he "supposedly" loves.

Answer 10

why would you divorce her? she seems to be the smartest one here. once you get married there should be no reason you should still live at your parents especially having a child. she can only take so much. you two should get a place of your own. just because you are the only son does not mean you should feel obligated to stay there. she is your family now. from my experience i am married with two and i live very far from my family. you will adjust. good luck but i say do not divorce.

Answer 11

Wauw , if your father has a habit of insulting people to their face , why should your wife be quiet? If it was me , I would have yelled back at him long ago. Is there no way you can get your own place? if you love your wife and daughter so much as you say , it shouldn't be a question of who you will "choose" I am surprised your wife kept quiet in the first place. Don't be so drastic , cant you talk to your Dad about his abuse?