How would I win at mediation so my ex husband does not get my kids?

Answer 1

Please think of the interests of your kids Miss Contestant!

Answer 2

You can't win at mediation...it's not a game. It's a place to resolve issues through a third party. Compromise is the only way to survive mediation. If you go in there with a take no prisoner's attitude, you are going to lose more than you ever stood to gain had you compromised on some of the issues. Not only does the mediator try to resolve the issues, the mediator is also responsible for writing a report to give to the judge and guardian adlitem based on their observations. If you refuse to compromise, it's going to be written down. If the guardian adlitem sees that, he/she is not going to rule in your favor because case history supports the least compromising parent tends to be held in contempt more for not complying with visitation orders. Unless you have strong, valid reasons for not wanting the kids with the ex, my suggestion would be to remove yourself from the equation and put the best interests of your children first. As someone who listens in on alot of family court proceedings, it is imperative that you choose your battles wisely. It's okay to lose a few battles, as long as you win the war.

Answer 3

Mediation is not for winning or loosing it is to try and sort out a custody order that is beneficial to both parents.One thing that may go in your favor is if the kids have been in your care since the split up.The worst thing you could do is try to lie to a mediator as they are trained to see right through false stories.

Answer 4

Wish I could honestly say that these courts/judges rule in the best interest of the children, but that is far from the truth. I was rudely awakened after walking up the steps to the courthouse to find that to be the farthest from the truth. The lies, deceit and pure corruption were unbelievable. It was a circus and once your sucked in, you or your children virtually have no way out. It's all about who can come up with the largest sum of money (under the table, of course) ! I eventually ended up filing a case in federal court naming everyone from the judges to the governor (because, of his unwillingness to do the job that he was placed in office to do when he is informed of any kind of corruption). It’s all about politics and he’s not about to turn on anybody there that’s helped put him in office. I feel for anybody having to go through this insanity and if I had it to do all over again, I would fight to take my children and move away and if that didn't work I'd think of another way to make it work because, the damage it does to the children is irreversible and they are the one's that will suffer for a lifetime, while these judges go their merry way and continue filling their deep pockets. Believe me they won’t remember you or anything about your case a few days after the hearing and you’ll be lucky if they’ve care enough to read the pleadings before you appear before them on the day of the hearing. Sorry to be so blunt, but stand up for what you believe in and don't let them beat you down or push you around, no matter what! If necessary go Pro-Se all the way! Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire and you can educate yourself with the laws that apply on-line (even if you have an attorney, so you’ll know he’s doing his job) and in a lot of counties they now have everything you need to represent yourself Pro-Se on line. Forms, pleading paper, rules and they virtually explain every step of the way. Of course, they don’t like you too, but keep in mind they have to give you more of a leeway than an attorney and believe me I’ve seen individuals represent themselves better than any attorney could do. Remember, it’s all about who has the most money and who can out act the other in the courtroom, while keeping their cool. Also, when you hear them speak about “Practicing Law” that’s exactly what a lot of them are doing “PRACTICING WITH YOUR CASE and YOUR MONEY, TOO BOOT”!

I wish you the best and I’ll say a pray for you . . .Good luck !

Answer 5

Well, I think you guys are wrong. It is about winning, moreso for women than for men. Women are in it for themselves, not for the children. Women like to use children as bargaining chips against the father. Women believe that they are entitled to something once they leave the marriage and will use the children to get it. Men are more interested in the best interest of the children. They want the children because they know that children of single mothers are more likely to suffer from a host of social and economic problems.

Answer 6

Your criminal expert is the appropriate guy or woman to respond to your question; yet in my own opinion in the journey that your husband already has the different weekend it would be surprisingly not likely the courts might award her request to cut back visitation to 2 weeks a year in her place of picking absent some extreme 0.33 occasion data and not her emotions , consequently the courts decision might desire to be to the two grant the modification or circulate away it status for an modification so restrictive of her request will require extreme data because of the fact the court docket has already policies he's greater healthy adequate to have them the different weekend and not selective supervised cases as she request so its her burden of evidence

Answer 7

what is it that you think you will win.the family law court is only interested in whats in the best interests of the child.if your husband is going to be a better parent then your children will win.
if you want to win ,be prepared to raise the children without help from your husband,litigation tends to have this effect.be prepared to be broke for a long time. be prepared for bitterness because you did not get what you wanted.be prepared for your children to hate you for a while be prepared to be single as no man is interested in a woman who has ego problems, and this you have as you are more intersted in winning than losing to your husband

Answer 8

get a better job or at least one to support u and your kids. Make sure you have enough space at home for em. try to get a job during school hours or daycare hours, so u can play the i have more time role. girl you'll get em. every judge knows there's nothing like a mother's love.
good luck
w/b

Answer 9

It's not about WINNING, it is about deciding what is in the best interest of the children, it's about them winning.

Answer 10

try seeing it like the judge would but definitely get a better lawyer.

Answer 11

you petty silly a$$ dumb ****, it's not about winning, the children have and need their father,so don't try to erase him from their life,grow up and give your children the best ...their father!