It's been ten years and no change. We get together and live in one house and then after the two week stay, things go back to her way. She doesn't work, cooks when she's ready, cleans when she's ready, make love when she's ready. I cook when I have to for the kids, clean behind the baby, bathe the kids and most of the time she's sleep. Converstion has completely stoped. So I left. Now I get conversations. She wanting me to come back, now she needs to have sex with me. Everything I needed then is now available. with the exception of the kids. I moved out and I question myself about moving her in with me again for the third time. Could this be finial
2006-08-02 18:24:57 · 9 answers · asked by dlittlz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like she's not much into making an effort. But you have already spent 10 years, so I suppose you care for her.
As a married man, I see a kind of depression in her. My wife (and me for that matter) had a long time where nothing was worth bothering about. She wouldn't cook a lot, seldom wanted to clean-with 3 kids, I see her point as well. However, my wife has a job (part of her depression) and I am an at home dad,(cook,clean, diapers-it does suck, but they are my kids) with a mediocre job. Heaven knows I try to get a better one! If you really want to make one last effort toward her before you pull the plug, then the conversation is the best start. "What the heck is up with us, honey?" "Why are you unhappy?"Do you want to feel as if you are more than what you are now ?" "Where can I help you?" Get deep into her head,because if she dosen't want you to go that far, then she never had trusted you at all-so Bye Bye, or how can You repair her trust in you? Time to start the dating cycle again-why is she attractive to you,why are you attractive to her? Caution- you may find it isn't there anymore, but you'll have an answer.
Sincere good luck to you both.
2006-08-02 18:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by matenmoe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can I ask u a question? B4 u married her, don't u realised her characters? Is she born in this way? If so, then u should'nt complaint & have such a problem! U have 2 take it & absorb. A woman, who is married 2 someone, a mother of someone, somehow, has 2 do her parts, has her performance done, play her roles. In another words, she has 2 know simple cookings, household chores, cleaning, nursing & babysiting the kids! Wake up ur mind & do something! Don't let her continues this way, or else u were never find a dot in here. If u think she's still worthy for u 2 luv(in what ways, u know) try 2 get her 2 the cooking lessons. This is the 1st & most easiest step she has 2 learn. If this way still doesn't makes her move, then u've 2b ready 2 kick her out. After all, u r doing all these works alone, & without her I'm sure u still can manage it. Minds has 2b clear, 2 take or to kick. I'm a woman too, I know my duties. I'll try my best 2 do the best for my family, 2 my kids, 2 my husband. Don't b soft hearted, or else u'll keep on rolling over & over non stop!
2006-08-02 19:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by cancerlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn shes got the life ha , i have 3 kids under the age of 6 and i clean my house everyday and i cook for the family than i go to work as my hubby gets home, if u been with her for 10 years and no chages will she never goin to chage sorry i think its time u left her for good
2006-08-02 18:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by OceanBlue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's totally up to you. But keep in mind what would made the kids and you the most happy.Keeping the communication between yous too is very important .
2006-08-02 18:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you. They say "absence makes the heart grow fonder," but in your case "absence makes one miss their meal ticket." You can do bad all by yourself. So why keep taking her back? Raise the kids on your own. You sound like a good dad. Good luck to you.
2006-08-02 18:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing will change. You go back, same thing. People are inherently lazy. They only work hard when they are desperate.
2006-08-02 18:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is one lazy ***** she needs to try and get in order look like all she wants is to sleep and have sex you have every right to leave her sorry ***
2006-08-02 18:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a timetable for housework.
2006-08-02 20:29:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
change the way you see things and the things you see will change
2006-08-02 18:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by stonedstephie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋