I'm tired... should I just give up?

Question

I'm tired of it all.... I make constant efforts to try to improve things, to try to reach a high star, but things never work out. I just can't swim against the current.
I feel I deserve her, I feel I deserve more, but i'm stuck in reverse.

Should I just give up, stop swimming and let the river drag me down?

I'm not from the US and I'm not suicidal either.
But thanks for your answers... they are very encouraging.

....and enlightening

Answer 1

I think you are on the right track. Life is a big party. You will meet many people-some of them you will remember in the morning. I say go for it! Life is too short to pass up oportunities.

Answer 2

The answer is never to stop swimming. You may have heard that if the shark were to stop swimming that it would die. Yet, the shark is the top of the food chain in the ocean. It only goes to show you that even the most vulnerable can also be the most powerful. Life always seems like it is to much, or too hard, the only way to get what you want is to keep fighting. I too felt the same way two years ago. I even thought about leaving early. I continued to do the things I beleived to be right and I could not be happier. The best thing to do is stop and really evaluate what is important to you and what you need to continue. Work every day to those goals and before you know it you will have what you need. But remember, Needs and wants are two seperate things. You deserve what you work for. Nothing comes easy. Stick with it.

Answer 3

If you're tired take a nap, and think things through. Its good to try to improve things constantly, and maybe you just need 2 watch some HG TV. If you want 2 reach a star become an astronaut. This summer when my family went to the Bahamas, my Dad told me "Don't ever try to swim against the current, or you'll get tired(just like u apparently are)and you'll drown, instead swim with the current (not literally but use the force to help you, like in your case adrenaline), so if the water is pushing you up north, swim northwest. If you think you don't deserve her, then you shouldn't be asking us, only you know that, and if your asking then the answer is you probally do. Last but not least, LIFE, is your car. If you're stuck in reverse, change the gears (duh). Stay positive man.

Answer 4

Your culture is completely different from ours. The life, standard of living, is much harder to beat the odds. I know because I had lived in Brazil. The inflation rate was devastating for me because there are times I, too, wonder what the point is.

I know things won't improve no matter how hard you tried to reach out for those stars. You also learned that you cannot swim against the current. Then, why not swim with the current.
Never, never, never, stop swimming. You need to be creative in resolving the situation. Remember persuasion is much more powerful than force. Find the U.S. fable about the sun and the cloud~whereas the cloud tried to force the man to take his coat off versus the sun persuade the man to take his coat off voluntary.

You must feel you deserve her, so she had to be hot. You need to also understand that if it doesn't work out, it wasn't meant to be for the two of you. Believe me, there are other women out there.

Answer 5

Please don't give up. Nothing is worth that. Believe me, I speak from experience. I have suffered from a life-threatening illness for all of my life (I am 40 and have had this problem since I was 18 months old) and require medical treatments 3 times a week for the rest of my life unless I get a transplant. Without them I would be dead within 7-21 days. I have never thought of giving up. At least I am alive to enjoy my family and friends.

Answer 6

yes, if you are trying to fight something that is stronger than you and that you really don't want to fight for.

but if you feel you have the strenghth and a fighting chance, ten keep on -the current is not the same all season.

Wow, I agree with CiaGuy07for some strange reason ...he makes a lot of sense. if you keep trying to change things, you are not taking the time to realize how you mess up things because you feel you deserve everything ...kind of selfish.

Answer 7

Why be dragged down? Just go with the flow and see what happens. When you see something major happen, then make a move. If you're just fighting a wave, you're just tiring yourself out for nothing.

Answer 8

heck yes you should... why do you deserve anything? you deserve nothing and the minute you realize that, the better life will get.

think about it... if you tell yourself you don't deserve anything, then when something good happens, you will be ecstatic jumping up and down saying "i don't deserve this!" life will become brighter. when you set your hopes so high, then you set yourself up for disappointment because life sucks and nothing ever seems to work out.

Answer 9

ur one line sentence made me realize its about some "her". well i dont know ur scenerio but i can say something if she has also got interest in u dont give up but if she has what so ever no interest in u dont force her u will get someone better. friend if in this world all could get what they wanted this place would have been a heaven...and another things on personal goals that has nothing to do wid another human never give up..cheers

Answer 10

That depends on whether you are willing to admit defeat and let someone/something else win or whether you want to keep fighting and win. I'm a fighter and if I find that something isn't working, I try something else. PS -- if you feel you deserve "her" but she isn't as convinced, it's time to move on and find someone who feels she deserves you.