Anybody out there have a friend that is a compulsive liar?

Question

My best friend lies about everything. She lies about stupid stuff that she should just go ahead and tell the truth about. She's my best friend and I love her to death but damn, why she always gotta lie about stuff? I never confront her about it. I was wondering should I let her know that I know she's lying or should I continue to ignore it like I don't know? Anyone out there have a friend like that? If so how did you deal with her/him?

Answer 1

She probably doesn't even know she's lying. And if you confront her she's going to say she isn't lying. Some people are like that and what happens one of a few things. They could be unsure about themselves and wants people to like them so much that they start answering questions with whatever answer they think people would like to hear. Others just answer things to get out of it and say the first thing that comes to mind, may it be truth or lie. And the least probable but possible is: they might be a little bit empathic (feels what others feel) or simply an actress that practices alot, and they tend to confuse the difference between what others feel and what they feel. Either way, it's up to you if you confront them or not, but now you know why they do it...

Answer 2

My sister is a compulsive/pathelogical liar. Which means she lies all the time, lies about lying and lies right to your face. Most people don't even know she's lying, shes that good. IT IS SOOO ANNOYING. But I'm sure you already know that. I've lived w/my sister for 16 years and have finally come to terms that there is NO way to change or help a compulsive liar. They just keep at it. So...I'm stuck w/her..But maybe you could have a serious talk w/your friend. I told my sister that I was never going to trust her again and when she would say anything I would automatically doubt her. it was like a game, "no kat, you're lying, I don't believe you". And in a way it was fun until she couldnt' take it any more. Compulsive liars feed off of others trust..she broke down and was "better" for a while. But eventually she reverted to her evil ways. Good luck!!!

Answer 3

I have two friends which are both Pagan and compulsive liars. They're riots! I've heard everything from how one guy can lift up a kid twice his weight with one hand to how they are 2000 year old warriors from Ireland. Of course, they might be extreme cases for the most part, but you get my drift. (Personally, I sometimes even play into their stories, and it can turn out to be a crazy misadventure.) I don't see why you wouldn't humor her and take it in stride. I'm sure some of her crazy stories could be worthy of one or two good jokes, and confronting her would only make her upset. If it's really so irritating to you, just ignore it, but at least try to think of it in a humorous way.

Answer 4

well it sounds like my friend and your friend are the same person the only difference is that my friend has not always done this. recently since she hooked up with a employee of the law who believe it or not lies constantly about stupid stuff now its like he has rubbed off on her and she lies to him and everyone else about stupid stuff. it concerns me deeply that they are fixing to have a child with each other and they lie to one another about where they went and ate lunch just to be lieing. they way I deal sadly is to limit the time I spend around her and never spend time with them as a couple because 2 liars are 2 too many! good luck and by the way confronting them does no good because they either don't realize what they are doing because it is part of their personality or their way of life and if they do realize it they rationalize it and try to explain it away usually with more dumb lies

Answer 5

*Raises Hand* Yep, one of my very close friends is a compulsive liar. I still hang out with her though because she is a good person and dependable. I don't know why she lies, so I take alot of things that come out of her mouth with a grain of salt. It is just the way that she is, and God knows that I have my rough areas, too. (I am a control freak) So since she sees her way around that, I'll see around the lying.

Answer 6

i have a friend like that, not a best friend. shes just trying to get close w/ everyone saying oh ill be there for you. but when people need her most, she runs away from the problems. i basically ignore her because shes not really my best friend, i say you should have a talk with her, because if you guys are best friends you guys are supposed to trust each other, like you said you love her to death. tell herr even though its not like a relationship or anything but it will get her to stop lying a bit

Answer 7

My son just broke up with his girlfriend who was/is a compulsive liar. I have known two compulsive liars in my life and I regret
wastin one second of my time continuing to bother with them at all. Do you feel your time is of no value?
Ditch her, she KNOWS she is a liar. She is entertaining herself
at everyone elses expense. Not good friend material.

Answer 8

i used to date a woman who was a compulsive liar. she didn't lie on small stuff but lied on major stuff. after 3 years we split up and i'm glad because she is someone else's problem

Answer 9

YES! I don't know why they do that! To get attention maybe. They feel like they need their life to be more exciting. I would call her out. Maybe send an anonymous letter saying that she is a beautiful person and that her habitual lying is bringing her down and she needs to think about it and try to change.

Answer 10

I had the same problem.
But got over it by firing hiom on his face this friends of mine will almost lie for anything. I'll tell u talk to her about it. If she diagrees. Get a strong proof and fire her on the face.Tha's the only way to solve this problem.

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