I have bad self esteem that depends on how many guys i can get to like me...i hurt their feelings and i dont mean to hurt them but i cant help it sumtimes. I want to get over this dependancy but i dont kno how..i kno its just wrong but for sum reason i developed this habit..what can i do?
2006-08-02 17:53:00 · 7 answers · asked by Enchanted 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
Don't base your own self worth on what others think about you. Learn to love the person inside yourself. People with this problem (girls) are always wonderful and sensitive types. You should accept this and quit looking to others to define your self-worth.
If nothing else seems to work for you, try going to a gym, develop better habits which strengthen your mind and body.
2006-08-02 18:00:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time and a good theripest!!
I had the same problem in school I always called it the
Scarlet O'Hara syndrom.
As long as i had every guy i knew surronding me and pampering me I felt like a Goddess. When they would leave me to go off somewhere else i felt like i was as ugly and terrible as a toad.
I even had them carry me across the school parking lot like some tropical island queen once. (i didnt ask them to they just thought it would be funny cause they knew i didnt like to be picked up) I was carried on the shoulders of two of the cutest guys who were both about 6'6" (which didnt do anything for my fear of heights!!) and all around them were at least 20 other very "hot" guys. (One of those "hot" guys is now my husband) It was like a drug to me. I'd go to school and get all that attention. and get high as a kite on it i didnt need drugs i had guys. then i'd come home and sit in my room all evening and night completly ignored by my parents (unless they came in to yell at me) and i'd go down again. Then back to school the next day for more guys.
And i wasnt a slut either i just enjoyed the company of guys. All the guys knew i wasnt easy, they were just all my friends. (I've only slept with 5 men in my life two i was married to)
the only things that have helped me have been time. And a good theripist who helped me learn that it was an addiction. I still have low self esstem. but i dont need all those guys any more (i dont think? i've been married for 6 years so i really wouldnt know, but i dare not try it cause i know i would still love the attention)
2006-08-03 01:11:03 · answer #2 · answered by naightengale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to put yourself in their shoes. How wrong would it be if a guy tried to get you to like him just to see if he could do it. That's horrible right? You don't want to be that person, so tell yourself that you don't want to be at the low level, so low as to play with other people's feelings. Feel better about yourself by working out, or learning how to play an instrument, get your mind off vanity for a while. Plus, it doesn't matter how pretty someone is on the outside, it's how you are on the inside. If you look as good as Halle Berry but you're a *****, what's the point? Repair yourself on the inside before you obsess about the mirror.
2006-08-03 01:01:37 · answer #3 · answered by someone in the world 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find yur inner self, dont wear as mush make up, do after sckool activites, volunter at yur hospital, go to the gym
ther yull find ppl who'll like u for yur goals!!! and achievemetns!!!
ps! i recommend the gyM!
2006-08-03 00:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by iyikka14 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gurl, you have to learn on your own that you are hott!!! you may not see it, but you probley are, besides- aint nobody perfect, so dont trie to be!!! so stop hurtin dem boys, and settle down gurl!!!! here, get you a boi friend, and flirt with guys but dont do nothing with them and see how many you can get to like you!!! that might work- GOOD LUCK!!! holla at yo gurl!!
2006-08-03 01:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should avoid hurting guys. as a guy i will tell u oftem guys r emotional and they aspect a good behave from u.
2006-08-03 00:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by avisek_2010 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just realize that's its shady behavior and one mustn't want to be so shady
2006-08-03 00:58:59 · answer #7 · answered by smilingontime 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋