Sexless Marriage?

Question

Is it understandable to have a sexless marriage when you are striving for spiritual enlightnement, and to better develop your relationship with each other?

We are of pagan faith, not a Christian, Muslim, or Jewish believers..

Answer 1

Yes. But from a guys perspective it can be really frustrating. The most important thing is to give feedback to your partner about what you doing ? My wife is kind of going threw a similar thing. At first it was so irritating because I did not know what she was doing. Now I Know and I am adjusting. Make sure to make him feel loved.

Answer 2

I don't know really. If this is something that you and he agree on sure, whatever you two feel is right for the relationship. But if this is one-sided, lack of sex is a big killer of marriages. You have to understand that sex is a sharing of emotions and bonding and is a marital pleasure (some say right but that's a bit extreme I think) and can sometimes be the glue that holds you together when things are going badly. It is a form of communication without words, an expression of love. So to take that away in an area where for all intents and purposes you are supposed to be doing that, well, if nothing else, it can be emotionally hurtful for the other partner if they aren't in agreement with that. If they are, great.

Answer 3

If the Big Guy wanted us to abstain from sex in order to reach a greater sense of spiritual enlightenment...his flock of worshippers wouldnt have made it past Adam and Eve.

Tantric is a combination of both sex and spiritual enlightenment through sex...its hard to achieve but atleast youcan have a lot more fun than sitting in the lotus position going 'hummmmm' waiting for spiritual enlightnment.

Answer 4

No I can't see having a marriage with no sex. I don't care what the reason is. The marriage bed is undefiled. That means that anything you do goes. So do something other than nothing. I understand that you want to better understand each other and knowing what a person likes in bed will teach you a lot.

Answer 5

Sexless Marriage??? After thinking about "Sexless Marriage" I don't think I fear Hell anymore because nothing is more terrible then Sexless Marriage. I don't even like the though of getting married before having sex. In fact I love sex.

Answer 6

If both of you agree, but not just one partner. You probably should have done the relationship building before marriage! Sex should be a part of the relationship, not a stumbling block to enlightenment. There is no substitute for the intimacy that it provides, not to mention the physical relief! You need balance, but eliminating positive elements is not the way to go!

Answer 7

Sexless marriage would be like curry without spices.
Such type of marriages are like healthy relationship with an individual,so it can't be termed as marriage. These marriages can be with the profession or with any hobbies.

Answer 8

Sexless Marriage Ha! So what will be the purpose of marriage better stay bachelor.

Answer 9

Well, this I would not agree with because sex in the marriage is a very important thing, this is one of the greatest ways of expressing your love to each other. That is one of the real reason of marriage to become one and share your life together.

Answer 10

No. There is nothing wrong with intimacy in your marriage. check out the priests who take a vow of celibacy for spiritual enlightenment. How does that work out? They become perverted. It is a normal part of marriage. It only serves to strengthen your marriage and bond you closer to your spouse. It is only one of several things to grow you closer, but it is an important one.