Hi there ppl,
I was left by my woman for the past 12 years.Because of my family and things that I did.The things that I did were fixed but the family I can not fix.We still talk to each other every day or almost every day through the phone or email.She still comes by to see me when I ask her.We had a house together and a life that was something have been In love for so long what do I do.I don't want to give up on us but I really don't know what to do about things.I have told her that I will love her till I die as that is what I said in the beganing of us.She was and still is the world to me and I just can't forget her so what do you do.She feels like that I need the family more than I need her.Well I said "Iam not sleeping with the family I am sleeping with you"her family is tight so she thinks that Is what i need. We have had a great sex life till this happen to us. With all the hurt that my family did really did something to us plz Help me!!!!!!!& if not how to get over her?
2006-08-02 17:41:31 · 9 answers · asked by viperman710 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think the 1st thing u need 2 do, is win back her trust.i d take it a lil slow, so she doesnt feel pressured.mayb start all over by dating again, u know, movies, dinner, a walk in the park.but u need 2 talk it over, ur problems. and let her express her feelings on the matter, and what it means 2 ur future. if u have kids, make sure u spend time with them also. this affects them 2. thats very important.and ask her if she would like 2 join u & the kids on an outing, & dont get hurt & all whiney if she says no. women dont like whiners. and if u never get her back, try 2 b friends of sorts so the kids wont hve 2 pick sides. and NEVER EVER say nasty things or blame it all on ur wife 4 the breakup to ur kids. they will hve a hard enuff time just bcauseof the breakup. trying 2 4get will only b as hard or as easy as u want it 2 b. u control urself, just take 1 day at a time, man, & good luck 2 u. o & by the way, tell ur family ur a big boy now & 2 mind their own damn business, & mean it.
2006-08-02 18:01:20 · answer #1 · answered by big foot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow see i had somewhat of the same problem when i got with the couple that i am with now three years ago my family was putting me down and talking **** to me and it hurt our relationship then i got pregnant by the married man that i am with and my family didnt understand that it was me, him , and his wife that were all sleeping together. well anyways if u really love this lady and she loves u just as much u will have to stand up to ur family infront of her and tell ur family that no matter what u are not going to lose this woman cause u love her so much and noone is going to ever stop u from doing that and if they cant accept that then they cant accept u and then grab her and kiss her and walk away and go home or take her out on a romantic dinner to show her that she is your world.
2006-08-03 00:51:39 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea200476 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOVE away from the offending family.
if she is everything to you, then prove it and take her away from the source of the pain. She may say she doesn't want to go, but if you pack your stuff up and hit the road and make a new home, if she loves you she will come to you. If not, you will find someone else to have sex with and in the end, that is all that matters anyway. You never truly know anyone except yourself, if you are lucky.
2006-08-06 10:49:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have 2 decide who u value more in yr future. Yr family or her. If u want her u shd consider her feelings 1st before any decision u made 4 yr family. Tell her u do yr best 2 change and consider 1st ,if she loves u she may give u a 2nd chance.
2006-08-03 00:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by lynnbtohs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u loved sameone for that long u never goin to get over her she will always be there deep in ur heart. Idont know what ur family as done but if u to love each other that much it wont matter u need to sit down with her and talk about it tell her how u feel and see if theres any way u can work it. i know my inlaw tryed to tear me and my man apart but the love was to deep and we made it throw now we been together for 10 year and his family know they cant tear as apart he told them to back off now they see i'm the best thing for there son it hard work but if uus love each other that much u can talk it out .
2006-08-03 00:53:48 · answer #5 · answered by OceanBlue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want her back in you life, you need to put your family on the back burner for now, and so does she.
Undivided attention from the two of you on eachother is what's gonna help. Your families won't!
But you can't exactly push your family away forever.
There's that saying
You can pick your nose, you can pick your friends, but you can't pick your family!!!
2006-08-03 00:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by Caffiene Junkie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your family. If they care for you at all they will change for your happiness!
2006-08-03 00:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by Charlotte F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on, start dating if shes gna play hard to get!
2006-08-03 00:48:11 · answer #8 · answered by SeXyGrL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck buddy, find a hobby to keep you occupied for awhile.
2006-08-03 00:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by I love money 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋