Would you be worried if a woman your spouse works with constantly make suggestive comments (I've read the emails and seen the pics of her in bikini's) and on a couple of occasions blatantly said they wanted to have sex with them? Keep in mind this woman has ALL day to do this and your spouses only response was to ignore her...Help am I being too paranoid
2006-08-02 17:35:02 · 25 answers · asked by Completly in love... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sit him down and get in his face. Tell him to do what he needs to do, to make it stop. If she's doing something that makes you jealous, it's up to him to end it. It's his relationship, not hers.
2006-08-02 18:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by 42ITUS™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this, but I think you should be very worried. It starts small with joking around at work, then leads to things like lunch, all without your knowledge. Next thing is him working late and not answering his work phone. Maybe his actions are innocent and you have nothing to worry about, but there should never be pics of co-workers in bikini's on your spouse's computer. Hopefully your situation is different and everything works out fine for you but, I would have serious concerns about your spouses behavior. Best of luck from a man who has experienced this in reverse.
2006-08-03 00:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by ccdriver1972 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry too much about it if you can trust your husband. If he has a reputation of cheating, I would watch a little closer so nothing slips by you. Also, when you two were married, you made a vow to eachother to love one another till death do you part. If he loves you like he said he did on your wedding day, you shouldnt have to worry about it. Maybe just talk to him about it. Also, your not being paranoid, everyone out there, I garuntee worries about these things. Heck, I do too.
2006-08-03 00:40:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what few women, in my experience, are brave enough to do. TALK! Have a frank and honest discussion with your husband about her and your feelings without being judgmental or accusatory. Assuming that this talk does not result in the possibility of being open to the idea, then talk to her and tell her how her flirtation makes you feel.
Roaches run when the lights get turned on, so, flip the switch and see who she and your husband really are.
2006-08-03 00:44:49 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you said men only but I couldnt' help myself.
Does your husband feel at all uncomfortable with the situation?
He should tell her to leave him alone and if that doesn't work then he should go to his boss and complain. It is not only affecting him at work , but you as well through the emails.
This could also be classed as sexual harassment, imagine if it was a man saying these things to another mans wife. He will be dragged through the courts or get a thumping! (which could also be a solution..... deck her!)
2006-08-03 00:43:41 · answer #5 · answered by tjrj23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been down this road, here's what you do
contact your mans supervisor, alert him to whats going on, do this SOON, Try not to sound catty about it, act concerned about your mans well-being, try not to sound jealous.
have your man file a sexual harrassment claim, copy the emails and use them as proof, purchase a digital voice activated recorder, have your man keep it on him somewhere and if she starts up that crap again, he will record it. These voice recorders are under $20
How did she get his email anyway? if its a work account she can be SO fired for this, trust me.
this IS sexual harrassment. Your man needs to do something about this unless he is participating in the harrassment by making comments back, in which he could lose his job if that girl ever decided to get bitchy about it.
feel free to message me for further less legal ideas. :)
2006-08-03 00:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a high possibility that he is doing this chick. I dont know many men that would pass on an easy opportunity like this. Only gay guys would not be sleeping with this lady. Is your husband gay? If so, he is probably being faithful to you. Get to the bottom of this, and if hes cheating....divorice and take half of whats his.
2006-08-03 00:41:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If another woman is going behind your man no no excuse me your husband then you should lay down the law. Tell the GIRL to leave yo man alone if she don't then talk to him don't be to pushy though explain your problem nice and easy.
2006-08-03 00:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by jdp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's certainly something to be concerned about but if it's just flirtations then I wouldn't jump to any conclusions unless you've proof there's more than flirtation going on. When people flirt with me I tend to flirt back with them even if I'm completely because I fear hurting their feelings.
2006-08-03 00:49:10 · answer #9 · answered by Winter Arcane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a respect issue. I had women flirt with me at the job and it was up to me to nip it in the bud. If he lets it go it can always get worse. He needs to be professional and ask her to stop. Its not always easy but it shows that he has respect for you and your relationship.
Hope this helps.
2006-08-03 00:42:55 · answer #10 · answered by whoknows? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course theres reason to worry and you would have a problem if you didnt. all you can do though is let your husband know youre not comfortable with it. and if he truely love you, you have to put your trust and faith in him. if it still annoys you, confront this woman and tell her to back off! your husband will love you for it and like that you would fight for him
2006-08-03 00:42:24 · answer #11 · answered by marcvialli 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋