i'm am very jealous when it comes to other girls and my man, i love him but it's just the way i feel. HELP ME

Question

I can't stop this feeling

Answer 1

You need to get over it and get some confidence. It will only be used against you by other women who want to watch you fail.
-NmD!

Answer 2

May I ask first how old you are and how long you have been together with this man? A lot of times a woman feels this way in her earlier years or at the start of a relationship. And by start I mean the first few years. Much of it comes from self esteem and trust issues. You can't just give trust away...it has to be earned. Perhaps you haven't been with this man long enough to know it is safe to trust him completely? The heart is a gentle thing and it's our instinct to protect it as much as we can. Has this man ever given you a reason not to trust him? I know it's hard but you have to loosen up a little. If you feel comfortable then talk to your man about how you're feeling. Hopefully he will understand. But you have to be carefull if you do that...if you don't know him very well he may be one of those people who will use that information as a tool to manipulate you. If you don't feel comfortable talking with him about it and it isn't hurting your relationship then try to deal with it on your own terms in your own way. Don't let him see you go into insecure neorotic episodes because of it. That's a huge turn off for any man and you may run the risk of losing him. Think really hard about all I've said and try to pin point what you think the problem is. If you feel it is a self esteem issue then pick up some self help books and try the exercises. They sell some really great ones at most all quality book stores. You can also get them online at Barns and Noble. Just try to calm down, think this through and then work with what you come up with. I know it's a horrible feeling to have. I started dating my husband when I was 13. We married when I was 15. We will celebrate our 16th wedding anniversary this year. I was just like you for a looooong time. But over the years I knew I could trust hubby and those feelings slowly went away. They do come back every once in awhile if I see a pretty, thin, young girl flirt with him or if I think he is checking someone out. But I now know that it's no longer a trust issue and purely stems from my own self esteem problems. Luckily the emotion leaves just as quickly as it comes now. Take care and I sincerely hope this help. I hope you have an amazing evening!

Answer 3

You need to sit down with ur man and tell him how u feel because i had the same problem with my man and woman i am in a three way relationship and we have all had our jealous moments and if ur man knows how u feel then if he really cares for u as much as u care about him then u two can come to a understanding and work everything out.

Answer 4

I was that way, to the point that i opened a car door whilst driving past this female with a short skirt once, if my husband hadnt of swerved out of the road the door would have bowled her over.
I didnt even have to know them or they didnt even have to know my man.
I was major insecure, we couldnt even go out in public because i would change from being ok to psycotic toward him when he had done nothing wrong
All i had to see was a female remotely pretty or with short skirt or cleavage showing and i tell u what it was not a pretty sight.
I would quite happily of beat these women to a bloody pulp no regrets, my husband couldnt understand my jelousy because he loved me so much and couldnt understand my irrational behaviour.
This went on for a few years, we fought because i accused him of perving, but it wasn't him, it was all in my head.
I had always been like this but it had gotten worse over time.
I needed therapy big time otherwise my marriage would end.
I found someone in Sydney that helped me dramatically and am heaps better now, some things still make me feel insecure like tv ads with half naked girls? i know its only a picture, but to me its really offensive, but yeah, i am heaps better, we can shopping no probs now, im looking better than i did then aswell so that has helped my self confidence.
Good luck
Dont wait until its too late
Help yourself and your relationship, get therapy and a good one.
best wishes.

Answer 5

You're probably jealous because a part of you doesn't trust him. Either that or you are insecure. It will drive him crazy if you can't see he doesn't care about any other girls...unless he's a dirtbag. But hell what do I know. 1) I'm 17. 2) I've never been in a relationship.

Answer 6

its normal but if ur jealously is on the level where you want to hurt the other girls i think you better get out of the relation ship because you cant trust your man that's why you get jealous from other girls and he does not do anything to make you more secure..i mean what kind of a relation ship is it that instead of talking to him about it you have to ask yahoo this question.....no offense but some relation ships are just bad for a person..if its only a little jealousy then don't worry about it but if you have to deal with it one every days base then it might be best for you to just get out of the relationship.

Answer 7

Maybe you should consider taking a break from him. You might be around him a little too much. You need a guy who loves you so much that you dont feel like ANY girl in the world could take him away from you. Only a guy you are truely in love with would make you feel like that.

Answer 8

If the jealousy is hurting your relationship, you might want to get couple's counseling, since you can't just get rid of feelings, just like that. I am very jealous too... and so is my boyfriend, but we try to talk things out whenever we get jealous.

Answer 9

Stop being so jealous ......just realize the benifts and fun you could have by letting your man have a another girlfriend. The three of you could have such fun.

You need to not be so jealous and share him with another girl.

Answer 10

What is it that makes you so jealous? What is it that he does with girls that makes you feel that why? Find that out and then maybe you can find a why to ask him about it or something

Answer 11

well,this shows how insecured you are in how you lack self confidence!!

you need to get to the root of the problem and ask yourself why do you feel so,if you love him you have to trust him,no relationship is possible without trust,trust is the foundation of every relationship!!

talk to your guys,m sure he'll help you feel more secured and comfortable,you should also get involved in some sport,if'll distress you and build up your self confidence!!

dont worry too much,dont think of yourself so low,start liking and loving yourself first and then see how the world falls at you.....