I like a guy who tells me his long-term rlnship is almost over because the passion is gone. What should I do?

Question

I really like him, but I do not want to be the rebound. Also, is it very bad to feel this way even though I know he still did not completely end it with his GF? To my great surprise he gave me a quick kiss the last time I saw him. I am a good girl, I really don't know what to do to show my interest (or whether I should). It's not like we see each other naturally through school, work or some other activity. Either he needs to make a move or me.

Answer 1

You shouldn't, this is a game attached men have been playing since the dawn of time and unfortunately women have been falling for it that long. If he's truly going to break up with the gf wait until he does, and just because he said later doesn't mean its over, wait until the dust settles. It takes about 20 seconds to break up with someone, anything more than that is just one more excuse in a never ending series of excuses. More than likely he's either trying to get you on the side, or make sure he has one in the sack and waiting when he leaves this one, doesn't matter either one is a sign of a lousy character and moral structure and he's a guy you want to stay away from. Remember, if they will do it with you they will do it to you. Not to mention 'the passion is gone' is one of the lamest excuses I ever heard! That means he only has use for a girl as long as they are in the infatuation stage of the relationship and its sex all the time, after that passes he has no staying power and will never be a candidate for a lasting committed relationship. Be smart here, don't fall for it. Tons of good men are scouring the earth looking for good girls to be with don't waste your time on an obvious loser like this!

Answer 2

If you want to feel good during the time you are in a relationship with him (if you enter one), then he must end a relationship before entering a new one. You know it is the decent and mature way to handle this. What worries me is the relationship ALMOST over, it should worry you also. Almost means just that, almost. Maybe he is making sure he has someone lined up before he ends it, which to me is a person who is possibly insecure being alone and not taking time to hash over their confused feelings first. It almost never works out as if he doesn't do this the honorable way, you will have to deal with trust issues with him in the future.

Answer 3

Wait to get involved until you know for sure that his relationship is over or you could find yourself in the middle of something you are not going to like.

Answer 4

Cool. Hook up with him when the X is out of his life. Then have a passoinate relationship with him-- and when he gets bored with you he will move on with someone else. Sounds like a plan huh.

Answer 5

In the way his situation is going, the best thing to do right now is just be a friend to whom he can talk to. Otherwise "it" may just be a sex-thing.

Answer 6

I would wait to see if he ends his long term relationship,BEFORE getting with him.And to be sure you aren't "the rebound".try waiting before getting intimate(in any way)and just try getting to know him better.IF it was meant to be,then he will still be there,when your ready too.Good luck and don't force anything.

Answer 7

get real men will tell you anything to get what they want and talk about you to there buddies this is fact in my opion i would move on if i was you . my opion?

Answer 8

I would move on but gust keep him has a friend.

Answer 9

wait til he gets himself single......cheater cheater pumpkin eater!
he's lying!run the other way!