How do i take dominion over a conversation?

Question

How do i strike fear when I talk to someone? Im not talking about freaky way-in a sencw i mean how do i have people respect me when I talk? What are some good teqniques?

Answer 1

There is an idea that in a conversation we must "earn the right to be heard". In which case, with people that you know you need to have a reputation for useful contributions when you speak. Amongst people you don't know, some options include brute force, where you elbow into the conversation with at least a minimal value of contribution. Some people use relevant humor, some use empathy, some use a essence of charisma, which comes from visible convictions towards values we all hold.
Sometime you can enter a conversation with ready built advantage like education, or a position of authority-either help.

As said before, just having useful knowledge is a huge help. Useful depends on what environment you are trying to break into. When I used to sales rep, my deficiency in knowledge in athletics and sport held me back. However, later I realized most of my clients were fascinated by finance and stock trading, which I was extremely experienced in. Dominance then came easily since I was given credibility for knowing something useful.

Good luck.

Answer 2

In order to dominate the conversation in a good way it has to hold someones interest. You must be well read on the subject and fully know all about the pros and cons and be able to answer any question that might be asked. But the topic should also be one that would be of concern or interest to most of the group to which you are speaking too. allow group interaction, good speaking skills would also be important. and if possible find group games that proves points but are fun activities if appropriate. But striking fear is not good unless your preaching the bible and saving a soul. Have a good one.

Answer 3

Maybe, instead of asking how you can take control over a conversation, you should be asking why you would want to. Maybe then you will get the answer to how you will get people to respect what you have to say. Becoming a good listener is a start.

To a flea, a dog is the whole world. As much as we might like where we are, or where we are coming from, it is not the whole world. There are things bigger and better outside of ourselves, but we must be able to see beyond the dog.

Answer 4

j rivera,

Ever heard of
"Silence is golden"

To become a good conversationist,
you must be first and foremost a
good listener. Give your undivided
attention to the talker, and you will,
in time, learn to know what makes
this person tick. Sadly, you might
find people aren't that interested
in what others have to say, so then
you proceed to step #2 which is
to become well versed in pretty
much everything.

And, always, always, always,
keep your answers/conversation
short and to the point!

Hope this 'long' answer helps some!
Oh, by the by, respect is earned, not
granted, so practice, practice, practice.

Ok, now I'm done, I think....???

Did I forget the importance of looking at
people into their eyes -- that a must!

Answer 5

although "kentucky" boy is somewhat right, you must also be a good listener, no one cares if you can talk or what you talk about, unless you show interest in what they say... re-affirm their conversation by saying yup, or uh-huh, or nod slightly up and down. always look at them in the eyes.. NOT death stare, but don't look around, keep your attention on them... Once they see that you seem interested, they will do the same... this will start to give you more confidence in speaking, whether it's public or personal.... I have an accent and sometimes have trouble with my words.....but I practice @ home, with some friends, or even...tape record my voice and play it back so I can see if I have a lot of "ummms" and "ahhhs" , that makes me sound too unsure of myself or of my topic of choice... It's always important to know what you're talking about, if you don't, then tell them.. let them teach you.

Answer 6

you dont have too... people still respect each other's views specially when they ask you your opinion on such matter. just be true to yourself, dwell on things you know about, be direct to the point, incite some examples if called for proof... as long you gave them your view and you "don't insist them to listen to you" (like commanding them to adhere your word), you don't have to rock the boat and be the captain of the ship... you might drown with it if you do, okay?

Answer 7

Try starting off by asking the question only one time...

Answer 8

Talk to them while pointing a gun towards them. That'll put some fear in them!!!