When we were just friends, there were times when she practically took the lead in conversation. Now that we're a couple, she rarely speaks up unless it's just to answer a question or to ask me one. If I don't talk about something, she asks me why I'm not talking. If I ask her what she wants to talk about, she says she doesn't know. I love her, I know that she's a really good person, and I already know a lot of things about her. I'm just not always sure what I should do in cases of awkward silences.
2006-08-02 16:59:51 · 18 answers · asked by aghostprofilebeingempty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
wow, that's what my problem was and was that girl who just couldn't speak up and talk to my bf. i realized that i was just extremely shy around him because i cared about him a lot and he still makes me feel nervous. i don't know why at all. we had a good long distance relationship that lasted half a year, but now things are different and i finally feel myself around him and we might give it another go. She might be going through some things with herself
2006-08-02 17:30:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 3⤋
Sounds like you guys are in a bit of a conversation rut. When that happens with me and my husband, we try and spend a little time apart. Say for instance, I'd do a girls night or spend a weekend with a friend. That why when I get back, I'll have something to talk about. If that doesn't work, ask her how her day was at work or school, and make it an open ended question that requires more then a one word answer.
2006-08-02 17:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by purple_bird2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When we say of talking... it's just one way of the many forms of communication. My question is... have you been CREATIVE in your relationship? How long have you been in this relationship? You said that you love her, and she's a good person, and you have known lots of things about her.... The next step is how to enhance your present relationship.... Go to different places where she will be more relaxed and wherein she will find interests.... Find out what are her interests... and try to focus on those. If a person is happy and fulfilled..then that person will be more FREE in expressing him/herself. Be NATURAL YOURSELF. RELAX.... ENJOY her presence. If she is an introvert. You have to accept her for who she really is. DON'T TRY to change her my dear!!!!!! Try to think of something NEW and INNOVATIVE... and dont be afraid to commit mistakes! God bless and take care.
2006-08-02 17:17:58 · answer #3 · answered by jackoy* 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her about something that's she's really good at or knows a lot about. just start a conversation that would get her attention
2006-08-02 17:09:46 · answer #4 · answered by H. kay. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just start a conversation that would get her attention or ask her how her day has gone or whats the matter. or if there's something she wants to do or talk about. sometimes you just have to wing it a little and see how far you get one step at a time.
2006-08-02 17:04:08 · answer #5 · answered by curlie-ba-twirlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to know what is her expectation. Like you said she used to talk to you when u were frinds. After marriage lots of things change. Especially for women. May be she is not comfortable with you or something is bothering her. Ask her openly.
Say u care about her and thats why u want to know. Take her to a nice candlelight dinner. Offer her flowers. Try to get the inside of her.
Marry her all your problems will be solved. Let me knwo after your amarriage who talks and who listens!
I hope this helps
2006-08-02 17:09:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thank your lucky stars she is not a chatterbox! As you grow closer to each other these awkward silences will become comfortable silences. Sometimes just being with a person can be enough. If you need a constant stream of inanities, turn on the TV.
2006-08-02 17:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be that there is something pressing that is on her mind. However, what you should do is accept her for who she is. If that is who she wishes to become, then let her. Make sure that she knows that you accept her no matter what. If there is an issue with her she will more likely confide in you if she feels safe and secure.
2006-08-02 17:08:03 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could try to ask her about subjects that will help build her confidence. Ask her about something that's she's really good at or knows a lot about.
2006-08-02 17:03:47 · answer #9 · answered by pamgissa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you were friends maybe she wasn't afraid of sayiny the wrong thing but now your a couple you have to let her know that nothing has changed and that she can be her self.
2006-08-02 17:09:57 · answer #10 · answered by SHEREE H 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just give her sometime to make up with you .I think you would know her taste . you have to workout what she really likes* and bring that subjects to your conversation. slowly..slowly.. she will start talking.
*Asking her opinion about your plans or something like that.
That will keep you in touch with her
2006-08-02 17:13:49 · answer #11 · answered by yellowstar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋