I've taken care of Daddy all this time--I called her to tell her he was ill and she just bullied in and took over after 20 years!! She's got half her stuff moved in--he's 85 and really missed her all that time, but dammit I'm the one who's been there!!! I confronted her and now here goes the family feud again!! My only concern is my father--her only concern is whatever she can get--she's gonna sell her house (which is in foreclosure) to "make sure Daddy is taken care of". I'm getting tired of the whole thing and would like to just walk away--but I can't.
2006-08-02 16:42:57 · 11 answers · asked by fallingstar 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When I first read you main question, I thought, aww, how sweet, she comes back for the sake of your dad. But after I read the details, OMG, I felt so mad for you!
Okay, my advice isn't the best, BUT, try to talk to your dad, he may be in ill condition right now, so spend more time with him. At first, it may seem as if he doesn't notice you anymore cos he's so "delighted" to see your sister, but if he comes to realize what your sister wants from him, I'm sure he would do something about that.
If he doesn't, I'm sorry. But I'll keep your dad in my prayers and hope he would recover from whatever illness he has and hope your family would be able to settle the fraud.
2006-08-02 16:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by cowgoesbaaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fathers sister did the same thing on my grandmothers deathbed. Make sure nothing is disappearing from his home or his bank account. Please contact a laywer if your father has not yet done so! That way everything is how he wants it after his passing. (which is hard to think about) But it needs to be done. She is coming to his rescue when she hasnt before because she can smell the inheiretance! Do not walk away, I know its difficult. But at this time your dad needs you more than ever with her lurking around. Im not sure if you are in a good position to also move in with dad to " make sure he is taken care of"!
2006-08-02 17:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by buggyroo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister just did the same thing, except not quite to the same extent. She is 55 and I am 41. We never really had a relationship growing up because she moved out and married before I even started kindergarten. Her and her husband are millionaires. My dad, bless his heart, was sick for about 6 years before he finally died and I took care of him the whole time, She was too busy being rich and running all over the world.
When dad died, she and all of my brothers and sisters left me a whole funeral bill to pay on my own because they thought dad was supporting me. NOT!!!! I worked full time as an RN and my kids stayed with my dad while I was at work in the evening. I am a single mom with no support and I I paid his outstanding debts and did everything for him. She, with all of her millions, could not contribute 1 dime for the funeral. None of my siblings did either.
I loved my dad and he loved me and thats all that matters in the end. I gave him a proper burial and I think he is probably smiling at me from up in heaven.
You need to be frank with your sister without upsetting your dad and get an attorney to help you sort out the sortables. I wish I had.
2006-08-02 17:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, Your dad is ill. If you love your dad you will be cool around him with your sister. However you can be passive aggressive with her. Mess with her head and play tricks on her like practical jokes. Get a good laugh out of her at her expense but don't let your dad know whats up. They sell tarantuals at the pet shop :)
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2016-12-11 05:38:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dag. Listen don't entertain her madness. Just be there for your father and know that he love you but he miss her too. When she start just try to walk way and remember its not about her it about your dad. Good Luck and much Blessing.
2006-08-02 16:53:33 · answer #6 · answered by JO`NAE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry!! every thing will be fine!!! Your Dad did know what 's happened!!! He knew you were a good kid. The right thing will be yours!!! Be happy because he can see his oldest daughter came back before he pass away!!! Your Family can be together. It's up to you!!! be worry or happy?
2006-08-02 17:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by jack m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to hold it together for your father. Just remember, karma's a bit*ch and she'll get back all the hurt she's given out.
2006-08-02 16:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! first of all im sorry to hear about uer sitch but maybe counseling might help goodluck .
2006-08-02 16:47:46 · answer #9 · answered by blueducky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bless her heart!
2006-08-02 16:46:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋