how do i get over divorce?

Question

okay...thanks everyone for your comments...however harsh some of them might have been : ) ...i'm not insane, im just trying to restore my former self minus my husband. so what are some things to do to get past this?

Answer 1

The answer is simple - you never get over a divorce. However, you can make a choice to let it define your life - or make the choice to let it become a learning experience. Changing your appearance may seem superficial - but does wonders for your self esteem. Get a haircut, color, artificial nails, new clothes,etc. Doing whatever it takes to feel better about your outer self is the first step. Then - find a divorce support group in your area. Check with local churches etc. Get involved in community groups, volunteer, or go back to school if that applies. This is the one time in your life you can be totally selfish, Trust me - it does get better, I was divorced after 23 years in what I thought was a very good marriage. I was devastated to find out he had someone on the side.Not only was my world turned upside down emotionally and financially - but my self esteem was in the toilet. After all, how do you start dating again at the age of 42? Let me tell you - it is easier than you might think! I remarried 2 years later to a man 6 years younger who is extremely attractive and treats me like a queen. We have been together for 10 years now. The difference between me and my divorced friends who have not remarried is that I actively sought out support groups, tried to improve myself physically and mentally, and "got back into the game." If I can do this - anyone can. You are a strong and powerful person. You WILL get past this. Do not let your ex have any further control over your life.

Answer 2

Of course it hurts and you feel lousy, However there is no way to unring the bell.
Whatever happened to cause the divorce cannot be undone and you must live with the consequences, Even if you believe it wasn't your fault or you didn't want the marriage to end.
What you must do is NEVER FORGET the reasons and events that lead to the divorce, For if you do, Those that forget history are destined to repeat it.

Answer 3

I just got divorced myself, and it can be hard. But this is what I can tell you. Whatever you do, keep your options open. Date ALOT. Do not get serious with any one person. You need to browse around. You'll be happier if you do the little things for yourself. I'm sure that you sacrificed alot in your marriage, and now is the time to do something for yourself. You deserve it. It's a fresh start, to do things RIGHT this time. Good luck.

Answer 4

it's kind of hard to say. i'm still going through mine. i finally moved out of our old house due to some economic hardship imposed by the divorce. she moved out four months ago. it was kind of hard looking at the place for the last time, especially the room where our son slept. i just keep telling myself that brighter days are ahead and that we'll all be better off in the long run.

Answer 5

Time heals all wounds, I been in that boat befor it's hard to figuer out where to start. I have a good support team of my mom and my aunts that have been divorced to talk to hey knoew what it's like to try and start over again. If you want to chat just e mail me

Answer 6

you had a life prior to marriage
you had thingd you did as a single person
be it whatever activities you did
take that back up
do not date right away
emotionally you are not ready for it
and no guy wants a womens baggage becuase she is bitter and not over it
once you get back into your former single life
you'll develop a rythem of life
and that's when you'll discover you are ready for dating

Answer 7

find a hobby and keep yourself occupied

booze helps too

Answer 8

ask her new husband!!