shes been cutting for4 or 5 yrs. she was able to stop wen someone dear to her asked her to. but then he lft her w/o caring. now hes a jerk to her. and she has family issues. cutting is a way for her to let out pain
2006-08-02 16:23:03 · 24 answers · asked by tiger_goal 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
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There are professionals that deal with this problem. It has only been within the last ten years or so that the field of Psychology has been alerted to this problem. I would advise you to get some help for your friend, because this problem seems to always get worse as time passes.
2006-08-10 15:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by Calvin of China, PhD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now, that's the only coping strategy she's got. She needs to find a GOOD counselor (which can be difficult) that she trusts and will talk to (which can also be difficult, depending on the person) who can help her develop other strategies. Cutting is almost always a symptom, not a problem proper, and that definitely seems to hold true here. Even with all that, it will be hard, but if she wants to stop she will: eventually. ANd she needs to remember that its ok to slip up.
Now then, as for YOU: once you help her figure out what her options are, you've done yoru part. Do not let this person guilt you, and do not be sucked into never-ending pity. If she truly wants to stop, she'll do everything she can to gain access to the help she needs. If she doesn't, you've done all you can do, and you don't need to worry yourself. This makes me sound like a terrible person, but there ARE people who use cutting as a way to manipulate people / gain attention / whatever. I've been on BOTH ends of this, so I know there are people for whom its a very legitimate problem as well. Just be careful I guess, and good luck to your friend.
2006-08-03 08:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cutting is just the newest way for people who don't think they get enough attention, to get the attention they think they need. You can tell this is true because before it was on TV, it was never a problem. Now that the subject has been on MTV, every sad goth loser is now a "cutter". Try ignoring her, or tell her at least to get an original "problem", like maybe she could cut the people who hurt her. At least then she won't be a stupid little trend follower.
2006-08-02 16:28:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Counseling is a long-term answer, but finding another cutter (a former cutter) is the only way to get her to shed light on what is going on with her. People don't understand. They think it's a choice. It's not. It's a reaction that words cannot define.
The Preacher can't deliver an answer no more than we need Milkmen to delivery to our front doors, and close friends pretend to listen but don't really understand. They can't. they have no conception of what personally-aimed rage is, and what a relief it is to find a solution.
2006-08-10 11:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by Chip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's only one way to do certain difficult things in life...and that's to do them (to "not cut" in this case). In the same way it "just happens" that someone self-cuts (it's they who do it and decide to do it), stopping that behavior follows a similar course. No one can "make someone else" do or not do something. Ok, so let's say the person declares "I try but am unable to." That's a legitimate concern. Then, that's what mental health professionals are for. So, to summarize, the answer is: only she can "do" (stop herself the behavior). If unable to proceed according to that, then climb up one step in the ladder and see a mental health professional, preferably psychiatrist or psychologist. Nowadays, she may have to accept some medication treatment along with some behavior therapy or other type of psychotherapy.
2006-08-02 16:43:35 · answer #5 · answered by Archetypal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
People cut because the physical pain over rides the emotional pain. She need guidance and help. If she can not get help from her family try the local mental health clinic. Bless you for being her friend. I am sure it is hard at times.
2006-08-02 16:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by aggie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion people who cut themselves have suicidial ideologies. I would encourage her to seek counseling. There are people and agenicies out there that are designed to assist her given her dilemma.
Your friend may be cutting because she has self esteem issues. Self abuse by some is just as serious as abuse from an external source. It is a very serious and risky behavior. Contact your local crisis center for information on how you may be able to help your friend.
2006-08-02 16:33:59 · answer #7 · answered by Scape Goat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She can write poetry, draw a picture, punch a punching bag. Anything to help let her anger out, BTW try to talk to her and have her tell u some of her probloms(If u already r then great). since she's been doing it for such a long time then it'll be a lil harder(i had the same problom for the same number of years).
2006-08-02 16:29:27 · answer #8 · answered by lonleychild2009 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She needs to talk to a counselor. I'm not a psychologist (yet), but I know that cutting is self-destructive behavior. I hope your friend gets the help she needs, and I wish her the best.
2006-08-10 08:33:06 · answer #9 · answered by Dione V. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if your friend would be willing to see a therapist. She doesn't have to see a psychiatrist (most expensive) there are other kinds of doctors. I think she will need professional help to get to the cause of the problem and work through it.
2006-08-02 16:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by EPnTX 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋