My dad has been critically ill for a year. I have been caring for him along with his wife. During the process we have become quite close. She is just a year older than me. I want to care for her and love her when my dad is gone and she is widowed. I love my dad but I think I have fallen in love with his wife.
2006-08-02 16:16:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You know, things like this happen. You two have been working very closely together under difficult circumstances to take care of someone you both love. Furthermore, if you are similar to your dad, you may have the same taste in women and she may be attracted to you.
If you have forged a friendship, it isn't surprising that you have become close. If you want it to work out, keep your relationship on the up and up until well after the funeral. You don't want to do anything that will cause guilt later.
At some point, you'll know when, sit down and talk to her. Tell her how you feel.
I hope it works out for you.
2006-08-02 16:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all: This is your dying Dad's wife. You should respect that and leave her alone. She is very vulnerable right now and you are her husband's son so she is probably attracted to you for that reason. Unless she is a Slut. Did she marry your dad for his money, because if she is only a year older than you it couldn't be for his youth and spunk. If he is dying, it sounds kind of fishy. I think she has the problem if she is trying to get with you. Just think: When you die is she going to go for your son. GROSS!! Just be careful and think things through first. If you still want her after your dad has been gone a year, if she is still interested in you also, go for it stud!!
2006-08-02 16:28:22 · answer #2 · answered by realcountrygal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gross she is your stepmother. There are plenty of woman out there find one that was not your fathers. She might be vulnerable right now because your dad is ill. Your crossing a line where you should not go.
2006-08-02 16:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go for a couple of months,then ask her what's in her heart,if it isn't you,but your father,let it go,if it is,let her go,to grieve,then come around,give your father some dignity,to say the least.If not troubles could arouse,you would not want to be apart of.
2006-08-02 16:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by malibu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that is huge, i don't think it will be a problem, but i think you should talk to your step-mom about it. i know it will be sooo much more stress on your dad if you talk to him about it , plus you'll be shy and embaressed, so i guess my advice is , just let time take its toll , do what your heart tell you !
2006-08-02 16:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR STEP-MOM!! Man you need to get out more their are tons of girls out their, so whattcha gonna do sit around and Waite for your dad to Kick off. then rush in and sweep her off her feet. you need to find someone else and QUICK...
2006-08-02 16:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by MAMA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's right. Would you really want to dis-respect your father like that?
2006-08-02 16:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!! Your really taking your dad illness hard huh?!?!?
2006-08-02 16:21:24 · answer #8 · answered by *Baby* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn!!! Table that question till after the funeral.
2006-08-02 16:25:09 · answer #9 · answered by johnnydean86 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a big problem. How does she feel?
2006-08-02 16:21:03 · answer #10 · answered by DD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋