Please advise me? What should i do?

Question

Hello i am a 5'6" 120lb super model babe traped in a 5' 170lb fat ugly body. When i close my eyes or even when i dont look at my self i FEEL deep down that i am thin and sexy. then when i open my eyes again or look in the mirror its like a horror movie, I see what i really look like i look like some one puked and i grow out of it. at least thats the way i feel, when ever i see myself? HOw can i go on knowing that deep under all this fat and ugly i really am overwelmingly sexy? I know i have that beauty underneath but does it count for anything?? Do men still find inner beauty sexy? Or will i forever be in this war with myself?? Knowing what i could be; only to have it snached away from me the moment i open my eyes? what shall i do??

Answer 1

1. Self esteem is the most important thing in beauty. If you feel beautiful, then it will project and others will see it.
2. If you think you are overweight, or just unhappy with yourself, and you are 18+ then talk to a doctor or fitness instructor about a weight loss/exercise plan that will help you
3. Inner beauty counts for a lot. Looks fade, personality is forever
4. There are plenty of men that find inner beauty more desirable that outer. Key word here is MEN, not boys. Boys are still shallow.
5. Battling with your self image is something only you can change

Firstly, get happy with your inner self. Then make whatever changes to the outer. Think about all the things you like about yourself. Smart, funny, kind, caring, good listener, great sense of humor, etc... You won't get far if you are depressed in your battle for outer beauty that you can't see yet. Then take the necessary steps to get as beautiful as you feel. New clothing that complements you, hair, makeup, exercise, diet, etc... whatever it is that you are after. Don't sweat your height, weight, age, and other numbers. You pay your doctor to worry about them. If you feel beautiful, it will come. If you feel fat and ugly, then that's all you will ever be even if you achieve 5'6" 120 lbs. Being happy with yourself is always the first step. As long as you are depressed, then there's nothing that can change that. That's how eating disorders came to be. No matter how skinny a girl got, she always sees herself as fat.
If you are under 18, then you are not done growing and developing. You body will continue to change and you may loose the pounds and gain inches without any outside help. Besides, since when is "short" bad? I'm short and my hubby likes me this way! Most teenage girls feel fat, ugly, too short, too tall, too skinny, or something. We all compare ourselves to others at that age. Most of us grow out of it. (Thank God!) Look at all the beautiful women out there that have different body shapes and sizes. Take hope from them. There is no standard for beauty. The secret is how you feel, how you present yourself to the world. If everyone looked the same, think how boring the world would be.

Answer 2

O, there are a LOT of men who find inner beauty sexy. Sometimes couples I see now days look so funny together, but I know it's all about chemistry and personality clicks, not looks. Don't be at war with yourself over this! Beauty is WAY over-rated; if you're concerned about your weight and your looks, try dieting and exercising right for a while and then see if you like your results or not. If you do, then keep at it until you get what you're looking for. If you're not dedicated enough to doing so, then try going to a yoga, fitness, dance, whatever kind of exercise you find appealing to do class and join! You are beautiful, even if you don't feel it. And the only way to get to what you want is to work at it, so start doing doing something and stop fantasizing ;-)!

Answer 3

Priorities girl.

If your goal is to release the inner super model in you then you will probably never be satisfied. Try to get excited about living a healthier lifestyle. Mental as well as physical. Study up on nutrition info- find out what your body needs- research tips at living healthier. Set reasonable goals not super model ones.

Most of all- stop reading trashy magazines, watching t.v. and comparing yourself to other women. It is all soooo superficial and soooo fleeting. It all changes so quickly. Is this what we are? simply our bodies? Our bodies are simply vessels that transport the really valuable stuff.

As far as men go- the good ones really don't care. Honestly- the good ones are the only ones worth worrying about. If a guy disregards you because of your weight be grateful- he showed his true colors and that is not the kind of person you want i your life.

When I was younger I was undiagnosed with Hoshimotos. I gained a lot of weight very quickly. I started dating an extremely attractive, wonderful man when I was at my heaviest. 7 years later we are still together. He fell in love with me when i was huge and loves me when i am thin. It is irrelevant- he loves me not my flesh.

Answer 4

Well ... first of all .. i feel yah ... and second .. there are some guys that see the inner beauty, but if your not happy .. then you should do somehting about i t.. the whole height thing .. all i can say is high heels.. but the whole weight thing.. well .. (what everyone says ) you should try to do something about it .. if you want to feel more sexy, maybe you should try those new striper excersising classes that they have .. try to get a buddy to help you .. Too embarrased to tell your friends .. or people you know for that matter? then email me .. and i'll be your buddy to help you loose weigh t... I'm trying to make my life healthier by doing the same ,,

hope this helps ! and good luck !!

Answer 5

I know what you mean. I feel like I'm a twenty year old trapped in a forty five year old's body. Your comments are conflicted - in one sentence you say that you feel thin and sexy and another you say you feel like you grew out of someone's puke. You owe it to yourself to lose some of that weight. You need to get really motivated and go on a healthy meal plan- like weight watchers. When I lost weight , I lost it because i didn't give my self a choice- just stick to it- Finally I got to a point where being thinner felt better than food tasted. i could still stand to lose 10 pounds, but I'm healthier and i feel a lot better.
Good Luck!

Answer 6

My advice for u is to exercise. Since u know u are beautiful and u feel like a model, why not exercise to look and feel like it - model? If u take the exercise seriously, within two months u will be in the body u want, i mean the 120lbs. Good luck girl.

Answer 7

aww, i really feel sorry for you.. i bet you're not ugly at all! i bet you're actually pretty.. inside and out. if you're very upset with the way you look, try to diet and excersize a little... or join weight watchers or jenny craig or curves.. anything like that to keep you motivated.. just while you're excersizing and dieting, remember, you're going to love the results so keep going even when it gets tough! no pain no gain right? i'm really sure you are beautiful.. so just try to eat a little better, and excersize a little more, maybe update your wardrobe, get a stylish haircut, and buy some new makeup! =] have fun with it.. just remember to love yourself no matter what you look like.. i'm sure you're beautiful inside and out.. and yes, guys do look on the inside.. they're not that much of jerks! lol.. they care about your personality, which you have a great one. just remember to keep trying, and stay confident, and never put yourself down.

best of luck! i'm here for you.. if you need anything just ask.

xox- amanda

Answer 8

well if you truly know that you are sexy underneath it all why don't you go out and do something about it? guys will like you for your inner beauty as long as you show on the outside that you are confident and proud of yourself. it might take some time to find the right guy but they are out there. to me though it doesn't sound like you truly think that you are beautiful on the inside. if you truly felt that you were sexy and beautiful you wouldn't say any of those things you did about yourself. a confident woman wouldn't ever say she is fat and ugly. those are the words of someone who doesn't like themself. but you can change it as long as you put your mind to it. i believe you can.

Answer 9

My dear, why don't you join a gym? Exercise will increase your metabolism, help you lose weight and above all make you feel good. Try eating more fruit and veg, cut out junk food and fizzy drinks, and you should be fine. If you're not comfy going to a unisex gym, try a women's only gym like curves. Good luck.

Answer 10

You need to get comfortable with yourself, whatever size you are.
If you are not liking what you look like, try doing something about it. But if you will choose to be happy with who you are, then others will begin to notice your inner beauty.