umm...just a question....(parents)?

Question

how come parents ask questions bout there kids problems with there genitals? do they see there kids naked or somthin?my mom hasnt seen me naked since like 5. how do they know of weird things on there genitals? i dont meen any offence but it just seems intrusive.i meen esspecially if they r like 10. i dont know just my opinion.but r ur kids showing u or wat?

Answer 1

OMG how rude can you be? My daughter is 8 and help her get dressed all the time (just because its faster if I help her then she is not distracted). We do not hide from each other, we take showers together, again just because it is faster and I know she is getting clean- there is nothing gross or dirty about it. Its just a mother making sure her daughter get washed and all the soap is out of her hair and she washed her armpits. If I don't take a shower with her and hurry her then she can be in the shower for hours and hours, just playing with her bathtub toys and the water.

Answer 2

Kids should feel comfortable talking with their parents about ANYTHING. If a kid has a rash or something, an open relationship will be healthy, and showing the parent isn't wrong...up to a point. Even 10 isn't too old. I have heard stories (I think from Europe or something) where parents take their kids to nude bathhouses until that age. People in America are a little uptight about their bodies. Kind of sad.

Answer 3

I have never made nudity a big deal and my kids are pretty open with me. My daughter is getting where she doesn't want me in the bathroom with her, she is 11 and has gotten her period and is filling out. But I know she would come to me if she had a question about something. And my 8 year old son loves to be naked-- I think most of my neighbors have probably gotten a glimpse. He is not too shy, but I am sure with time that will change

Answer 4

Most children feel embarrased by their private parts, since they have been taught to keep them private since birth. Assuming that you are 8-13, this is a time in someone's life that changes will start to occur. Because there is so much change going on, there is also a much greater potential for problems to arise. They just care about you, and want to make sure that if there is a health or developmental problem, it can be fixed right away.

By the way, can I assume you are a girl? Generally only parents ask their children of the same sex these questions unless they are single parents. I don't want to judge your parents, but you might want to make sure both of your parents know about this if your father is asking his daughter these question, and vice versa.

Answer 5

My son is 6 so yes I see his genitals. Not like I want to or not. He is my kid, and that is just nasty to even imagine.

I am guessing at the age of 10, I would go to my mom if I noticed something was wrong. I think it's a good thing. What if it was serious, and needed to be treated? They should not be scared to get help for a problem.

Answer 6

Possibly because kids go to their parents for help maybe? Hey if something was wrong with my todger, i'd ask my old man, then again I'm twenty, so I would most likely go to the doctor first.
But some teenagers would trust their parents with questions, that perhaps their parents couldnt answer and so they post here. I don't see the problem really, isn't it better that we turn to the ones that we can trust the most, than worrying about it constantly and not saying anything?
So its just close families mostly.

Answer 7

I agree--I want my kids to know they can come to me whenever there's a problem or they're hurt. A "boo boo" that needs to be treated is still a "boo boo", no matter where it is. But no, of course I don't *want* to see my 11 year old naked, no "normal" parent does (by normal I just mean that we all know there are weirdos out there). But I do on occassion. It's natural and it's bound to happen in any family. My youngest is 6, so I still have to help him with things, like showers and whatnot.

Answer 8

I have worked in Urology for a few years, and knowing the possible problems of the area, I am very open to my son (who is 7) about being aware of what is and what is not normal, and for symptoms to tell me about. No I don't inspect him, but my responsibility as a parent is to educate him and to make him feel comfortable about coming to me about problems. My daughter who is 1 has vaginal adhesions (basically her labia is sealed shut)......so, because it's her genitals, am I not supposed to notice? Hopefully when you are a parent, your opinion will have changed about what is considered "intrusive" in your childrens lives.

Answer 9

Effective parenting requires the constant monitoring of our children for any signs of physical, mental, or emotional distress. It is very common and normal for parents to see their young children naked in various situations. However, children need to be treated age-appropriately. For example, a teenager does have an expectation of privacy and it would be unreasonable and uncomfortable for an adult parent to see their child naked or in the nude. Common sense is key. If the child expresses discomfort in being seen naked, a parent must validate his/her child's feelings and accommodate.

Answer 10

I think that after a certain age it is inappropriate to look upon anyone's private area.except by health professionals and spouses.but there are always exceptions to any rules,so if the reasons are clearly for the well fare of the individual, and they both agree, then it may be the best course of action in that particular case.