Your spouse is having an emotional/cyber/phyisical affair with another married person. You find out, and get apologies from spouse and other person. Should the other person's spouse be told? If so, who should tell? The scorned lover? Or the person they are married to?
2006-08-02 15:52:01 · 36 answers · asked by Gothic Martha™ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes.
Not out of spite but because they deserve to know the TRUTH...
It sucks to be the messanger but, be nice about it.
You'd want to know if it was the other way around.
2006-08-02 15:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hey Gothic,
Lets refer to you as couple 1 and them as couple 2.
I believe that the cheating party from couple 2 holds that responsibility. You and your spouse should deal with your spouse's issues. Couple 2's spouse may not have so much of a problem with it as you do. By the same token it could be a much greater deal than what you have to deal with. Not knowing their situation, you (couple 1) should leave it alone.
2006-08-02 16:01:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you should be concerned about it why your wife is doing this, might have something to do with you not being romantic with her. If the other spouse wants to know they will find out also, it isn't your job to crush them. Deal with your own situation cause what goes on it that house is none of your business. Besides it would be terribly cruel if shehe is in denial about it.
2006-08-02 15:57:31 · answer #3 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be better not to tell. I guess that person probably feel terrible with what happen. If your spouse have an affair, you should really think about if he is worth to be a husband.
2006-08-02 15:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by Dogs Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough, because in today's times this can be life or death. But I'd guess the "other" would not believe you and hate you. But the guilty spouse should tell his spouse. Just my opinion, though. But, I hope you realize, once a cheater, always a cheater. Took me way too long to figure this out, don't let it happen to you. God Bless.
2006-08-02 16:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would want to know, but I'd want my spouse to tell me, not the person he was having the affair with. I think the general consensus from "Dear Abby" types is that you shouldn't meddle in the other couple's relationship at all.
2006-08-02 15:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by Aemilia753 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To all the people that think it would be revenge-
that she shouldn't say anything, ask yourself this- what if this was your child getting cheated on....or brother....or father. What if their cheating spouse gave them an STD like AIDS? And you could have prevented it - statistics show that people who have had an affair, tend to have additional affairs.
2006-08-02 16:36:12 · answer #7 · answered by bcgal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why should you make someone feel as miserable as you do? Sometimes ignorance is bliss. If he should find out, it should be by his spouse - no one else. He doesn't want to be made to feel like a fool and embarrased in front of others on TOP of being cheated on.
2006-08-02 15:54:46 · answer #8 · answered by Scadle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first priority is where can I get the best divorce lawyer.
My second priority is where is the copy or recorded of everything that my spouse has done as evidence for my lawyer.
2006-08-02 15:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should totally tell the person you don't want them to be hurt whenever they find out a different way..drop you're spouse..they're not good ebough for you.
2006-08-02 15:55:42 · answer #10 · answered by Poxxii ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other unfaithful spouse needs to tell her husband what she's done. Then beg for forgiveness.
2006-08-02 15:57:30 · answer #11 · answered by Andrew 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋